When someone has what it takes to break hearts, you can’t always tell- or can you? Learn the signs you’re headed for a heartbreak and what to do to avoid it.
Nobody wants a heartbreak, but sometimes it happens. That doesn’t mean it has to happen to you. Believe it or not, there are glaringly obvious signs someone is a heartbreaker and that you are headed for a heartbreak they would gladly inflict upon you. The good part is they give you plenty of notice they are going to try and it gives you time to avoid it. Would you like to learn how to step away before your heart gets broken? Join SpiritualBlossom to find out. Discover what a heartbreaker is- hopefully you have not dated one before! Find out surefire ways to spot a heartbreaker and the signs someone is about to break your heart. Then, find out how to avoid it. Heartbreakers can move from one person to the next, leaving a trail of hurt in their wake. Read on to make sure they don’t do it to you, too.
What is a Heartbreaker?
Everybody talks about heartbreakers like they’re someone who you meet every day. Not everyone has met one, though. Heartbreakers are the people who go from relationship to relationship and hurt people. They seem to leave a string of broken hearts throughout their life, and they seem to have no idea they're doing it. Either that, or they won't acknowledge it. They might be a surreally beautiful individual who everybody gravitates toward, but chances are they are somebody who actively seeks out people to hurt. They seem to have more interest in what they are personally doing than other people's feelings. They also never seem to run out of love options, do they?
A heartbreaker can be anywhere. You can meet them in your friend's group, or in your personal neighborhood. If you're a single parent, they might be another single parent whose kid hangs out with your kid. When you first meet them, they might seem like the most charming person in the room, and you might be confused about why they're single. They might zone in on you before you realize what's happening, and then drop you like a hot stone. Don't worry, they'll show up again when they want something though. It never fails that a heartbreaker needs people more than people need them.
They are responsible for a record amount of breakups and they might be proud of how many people they've been involved with. If they've been around the block in your hometown, chances are they have a bad reputation. When you meet them, they might seem so sweet and charming, you wonder why anyone would have a problem with them. Don't worry, because you'll find out soon. They will either break your heart or try to. Speaking of charm, one of the most charming Zodiac signs is Libra, and you can read about them here: Libra Traits and Love Compatibility
How to Spot a Heartbreaker
You may have never encountered a heartbreaker, but maybe you have. It's fair to say that some of them are better at concealing what they are than others. There are still some red flags that you're probably dealing with one. If they're high maintenance and selfish, chances are you're dealing with the heartbreaker. If they come on too strong or not strong enough, congratulations, you found a heartbreaker. If they brag about how many people they have dated or slept with, that's a heartbreaker. If they don't believe in marriage or commitment and never admit when they're wrong, they break hearts.
They Are High Maintenance
High maintenance people love to be catered to, pampered, and spoiled. They will not reciprocate. All they do is take and they expect everyone to give to them. They might be someone who expects a lot of money to be spent on them or who won't reach out first under any circumstances. They might be someone who makes crazy demands, and raises hell if you don't give in. They might be someone who makes you prove your devotion constantly, but they've demonstrated that they don't care about you. High maintenance people are only concerned wiith getting things exactly their way and they will not accommodate anyone else.
They Are Selfish
Another red flag that you've met a heartbreaker is that they are selfish. All they care about is what they want. All they think about is what they can get from you. They are stingy with their time, and expect you to build your entire life around their schedule, which might change often. If you're sick or have to reschedule, they'll get angry. It’s all because they don't care about your needs, just what they want. Everything will have to be on their terms iIncluding where you go, what you do together, and when you get together. Selfish people might make you wonder if you're actually in a relationship with them at all, or if you're just being used. Let your personal intuition guide you about whether someone is worth your time or not. Learn how here: Being Intuitive-Trusting Your Inner Voice
They Come on Too Strong or Not Strong Enough
Some people immediately act like they fall madly in love with you. Other people, no matter how much time you spend with them, will act like they don't care whether you're around or not. If someone seems to be giving you too much attention too quickly, or not enough attention, chances are they don't care if they break your heart. Even though people say love at first sight exists, serial heartbreakers will instantly attach themselves to people on a regular basis, or refuse to emotionally attach at all. If it feels like someone is putting in too much effort or not enough, chances are they'll break your heart.
They Brag About “Body Count”
Most people have dated multiple people. By the time you meet your heartbreaker, there's no telling how many people you will have dated, even for just first dates. Heartbreakers love to brag about how many dates, boyfriends or girlfriends, or long-term partners they've had. It makes them feel popular and attractive to have a large amount of ex-lovers. They also love comparing you to everyone else they have ever slept with or dated. Chances are, they brag about their so-called “body count” publicly to anyone who will listen, and use it to insist that they are the most attractive person in the room. One Zodiac sign that doesn't want to listen to that is Scorpio, and you can read about them here: Scorpio Traits and Love Compatibility
They Don’t Believe in Marriage
Anyone who says they don't believe in marriage, but they can't stand to be single is a heartbreaker. They want someone to commit to them, but they refuse to commit. If somebody tells you that they will never spend their life with someone else, that is one of the biggest red flags you’re dealing with a heartbreaker. Heartbreakers are very good at philosophically justifying their anti marriage sentiments. Maybe they went through a nasty divorce or they watched their parents get divorced. A lot of people do but that doesn't mean that marriage should not exist for anyone. Maybe your heartbreaker has never loved anyone enough to commit to them, but if they point blank tell you that they won't commit to you, they're going to break your heart if they can.
They Are Never Wrong
Heartbreakers are incapable of taking personal responsibility for anything they do. They believe they are never wrong. They act like they do everything perfectly. They behave as if they could never improve or learn to do better. They act like they're the best person in the room. Everybody is wrong sometimes and could learn to do better. Your heartbreaker might not admit it because they don't realize that about themselves. They are guaranteed to break hearts because they think that they can do no wrong. One Zodiac sign that does not have a problem pointing out things that they believe are wrong is Sagittarius and you can read about them here: Sagittarius Traits and Love Compatibility
Signs You’re Headed for Heartbreak
How can you tell if you're headed for a heartbreak? Different things can go wrong, but there are some things listed below that are surefire ways to tell that someone is about to break your heart. Read on to find out if you're dealing with any of these red flags here.
You Want Different Things
To work out a relationship, you and your partner are going to want the same things in life. If you don't, your heart is going to get broken if you continue insisting on staying together. Sometimes it's no one's fault and you just can't reconcile a lifestyle together. It's better to cut your losses than to stick around for a broken heart.
They Won’t Commit
If you are involved with someone who does not believe in committing to anyone else, the longer you stay with them, the more that is going to hurt. If you've been with someone for years and they don't want to live with you, talk about the future with you, or talk about long term commitment, they're going to break your heart. Learn how to find a partner to commit to here: Is He the One? Find Out if He’s Mr. Right
They Are ALWAYS Busy
Someone who always has time for everything but you is definitely going to break your heart. None of us really have time for anything. We have to make time for things. We have to make time for the people who we have relationships with. Someone who can't do that does not care about you and has not made you a priority in their life. That hurts. Find someone else who makes you a priority, because trust me, someone else will.
They Have the Roving Eye
To be fair, there are a lot of attractive people in this world. If the person you're spending time with goes out of their way to let you know they find other people attractive, you bet you're going to get a broken heart. No one needs to be reminded that there are other people in the world. Chances are, it would be just as easy for you to get a date with someone different as your love interest with the roving eye. So, don't let them break your heart. They can go out with someone else and you can find someone who will be focused on you. Roving eyes are a dealbreaker. Read what to do about deal breakers here: What Are Deal Breakers?
They Only Come for Sex
If you want a relationship with someone and all they want is sex, guess what, they don't care about your feelings and it's going to break your heart. Not everyone is focused on relationships, and may use sex as a way to satisfy urges. People who are like this think of sex as scratching an annoying itch. They can scratch that itch with someone else.
It’s All About Them
Anytime you're involved with someone who only cares about themselves and what they're going to get out of a relationship, they're going to break your heart. Relationships are supposed to be two way streets. If the only person benefiting from your relationship is your heartbreaker, be aware, they are going to hurt you. One Zodiac sign that won’t tolerate selfishness is Leo and you can read about them here: Leo Traits and Love Compatibility
They Hurt You
Some people seem to know just what to say and do to hurt you on a regular basis. If you're involved with somebody who hurts you all the time, they are already breaking your heart. Relationships are supposed to make us feel better, not hurt us. So let your heartbreaker go.
Your Instincts Warn You
If you get a bad gut feeling about someone, even if you've just met them, give yourself permission to stay away from them. You don't need to know why you can tell they're a heartbreaker. Just listen to your instincts. Your instincts warn you about red flags. Find out what to do about red flags here: What to Do About Red Flags in Relationships
How to Avoid Heartbreak
Now that you know red flags to look for to avoid heartbreakers, what should you do if you realize that you're headed for heartbreak? Easy. Know what you want and prioritize yourself above what a heartbreaker wants. Never be afraid of being single, because that's how a heartbreaker keeps you reeled in.
Know What You Want
What do you want from your relationships? Do you want a partner to share life with and have kids with? If your heartbreaker doesn't want that, oh well, they can find someone else to hurt. Know what you want from your relationships and never, ever settle for anything else.
Prioritize Yourself
The number one reason heartbreakers are successful is that people allow them to break their hearts. If you know what you want, and your heartbreaker is not giving you that, make your emotional needs the top priority. Technically, someone who you're in a relationship with is supposed to make you the top priority, and heartbreakers won't do that. So you have to. Don't worry. Someone else will.
Have the Courage to be Single
It is better to be alone than to have a relationship with someone who hurts you. Don't be afraid to walk away from a heartbreaker. When you're single, you will be open to finding someone who treats you right and gives you the love you deserve. You're worth it.
You don’t have to let heartbreakers play you. Thankfully, most of the time, the red flags you’re dealing with a heartbreaker are glaringly obvious, so you won’t have to worry about being shocked after years of love by a sudden broken heart. Love yourself enough to stop a heartbreaker in their tracks. True love is waiting.
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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Mysticsense and SpiritualBlossom, and she writes for PaganPages.Org emag and Green Egg Magazine.
