Why Do I Keep Dreaming About My Ex?
January 19, 2024 10 min read

Why Do I Keep Dreaming About My Ex?

By Lady Saoirse

What does it mean when you dream about your ex? Seeing an ex in a dream can be disturbing or it can be heartbreaking, making you wish you were still together, and it can happen for a lot of different reasons. Join Spiritual Blossom for our exploration of breakups, why they happen, the first step to recover from one, and what kind of different things dreaming about your ex can mean.

When you go through a breakup, it can seem like the end of the world. It is certainly the end of a relationship, and that changes your world entirely. Whether you and your ex had been together a long time, or a short time, it’s a big shock because nobody expects to go through a breakup. When you are trying to move on, sleep might be difficult at first, and you might spend nights lying awake, trying to figure out what could have been different and what you could have done or said to make things work out. When you finally get to sleep again, if you start to have dreams about your ex, it can be shocking to say the least. Why does this even happen, and what do these dreams mean? Besides this what makes breakups happen and what can you do after yours?

Why Do People Break Up?

Why Do People Break Up?

No couple expects to break up, especially if they are in love. However, it happens sometimes, and people break up for a lot of different reasons. The real reason behind every breakup is that the relationship is not working out for one or both people of course, but that can be caused by different things. If you want different things in life and cannot build a life together, it can cause a breakup. If you fight constantly, chances are you won’t stay together forever. If there was infidelity, a lot of people break up with their cheater.

You Want Different Things

Sometimes, you fall in love with somebody who does not want the same life as you want. If you want kids and they don’t, it’s going to cause a problem. If you pursue higher education and they don’t want you to, it’s going to be an issue. If they try to force you into getting a degree you don’t want, that will cause problems as well. When you fall in love, at first, you ignore it if you have a lot of differences, and to be fair, no two people are exactly alike. However, if you want a completely different life than they want, and you cannot compromise, it can lead to a breakup. To read how the signs break up, see here: Breakups with Each of the Signs

You Fought a Lot

If you and your partner fight all the time, and nothing can make it stop, you might decide the relationship is filled with too much drama, and you just want some peace in life, so you break up with them. To be fair, all couples fight. As a matter of fact, it is reported 30% of couples fight weekly, so don’t feel bad if you fight sometimes. If you are fighting so much that you feel like it is too often, though, you might get tired of it. If sitting down and discussing things rationally doesn’t change anything, you might be headed for a breakup.

One of You Cheated

One of You Cheated

HackSpirit has some disheartening statistics about cheating. They report that once it has been discovered there was infidelity, 69% of marriages end in breakup. Top reasons listed for cheating is they said their partner was not giving them enough attention, or somebody else was “really hot.” You can read more from that article here: Infidelity Statistics (2023): How Much Cheating is Going On? - Hack Spirit Cheating can completely destroy the trust in your relationship and make you wonder why you ever got with your partner to begin with. If your partner cheated and you don’t want to be with them anymore, the way you feel is not unusual and it’s okay to break up. To read more on love, see here: What is the Spiritual Meaning of Love?

Can My Ex Feel My Energy?

It is possible your ex can feel your energy. If you were in a close relationship with them, you might still have an energy connection, and when you think about them, they might be able to pick up on that. It is only natural that you would think of them sometimes, especially so close to the time of the breakup, but as more time goes on, it will be easier to stop thinking of them so often. If you are sure the relationship is over, it’s always a good idea not to worry about what your ex is doing, thinking, or experiencing. Part of moving on is making it a habit not to think of them all the time, and not being concerned with your ex, who is no longer in your life is a good way to start. One way to read energy is by clairvoyance and you can read about that here: What is Clairvoyant Psychic Reading?

What to Do After a Breakup

What to Do After a Breakup

After you break up, it can take a long time to heal emotionally and that won’t happen overnight. You might feel alone, emotionally empty, or that you may never love again. There are a lot of different steps you can take to heal and a lot of different techniques you can use, but there is one single thing you must do before you begin any of these things. It’s simple, and it might be the only thing you need to do to make your healing start. Ready to find out what it is?

Move on without them. Pick up your life and go forward without your ex. If you were in the process of buying a house together, then buy a house without them. If you were planning a big vacation together, do a vacation without them. If you were planning a retirement with them, plan it without them. If they held you back from a hobby you loved, go out and pursue that hobby. Your ex is no longer in your life, and your job is to act like it. Healing will take time, so in the meantime, go out and live your life as enjoyably as possible. One sign that lives their life to the fullest is Aries and you can read about them here: Aries Zodiac Traits and Love Compatibility

The Meaning of Dreams About an Ex

Sometimes, you dream of an ex because you miss them, and you wish you were back together. When this happens, there is nothing wrong with reaching out to see if you can patch things up. Plenty of couples break up and get back together and their relationship is stronger than ever when they realize how much they miss each other. Sometimes, though, your dreams about an ex are telling you something else. But first, to read more about saying “I love you” see here: When Should I Tell Him I Love Him?

Dreams About Seeing an Ex

Dreams About Seeing an Ex

This dream could very well be putting you on notice that you will run in to your ex in the near future, and you should prepare yourself. When we are caught by surprise, sometimes, our reactions are not what we hope they will be. When you have this dream, think of how you would prefer to react if you run into your ex somewhere and if you are unfortunate enough to see your ex, do what you planned to do. Your dream has given you time to plan so you don’t have to worry about an uncomfortable encounter. To read about blood sucking parasites, which you might consider your ex to be, read our article about vampires here: Are Vampires Real?

Dreams About Secrets an Ex Kept

If you have dreams that your ex kept secrets, it could mean a couple of different things. First, it could mean you did not trust them, caught them in lies, or that they hid things from you, and you are remembering that. Sometimes, when time passes, we stop being angry with an ex and consider taking them back. If you are considering this and you have this dream, it is telling you not to take them back and you cannot trust them. It could also mean there is something the kept hidden from you and you will find out what that is very soon. To learn about how the signs keep their secrets, read here: How Do the Signs Keep Secrets? 

Dreams About Revenge on an Ex

Truthfully, some exes are horrible people, and they did unspeakable things to you. If you did not get an apology, especially if you were left to deal with something awful that they did to you, you might think justice was not served and you’d like to see your awful ex get what is coming to them. This would not make you unusual because a lot of people feel that way about an ex. Dreaming of getting revenge on an ex is a sign you feel like justice has not been served and truthfully, you want your ex punished. Maybe you can’t get revenge, but you can always dream! To read about one sign that would not feel guilty about getting revenge, see here: The Best Love Matches for Scorpio

Dreams About an Abusive Ex

This is usually a trauma response. When you dream about someone who abused you, your mind is still processing the abuse. If in your dream, they are abusing you again, when you wake up, take heart. They are gone from your life, and you can keep them from coming around and abusing you again. The sad truth is that abuse might be over but sometimes, you might be worried for your safety and wellbeing, years after it is past. There is nothing wrong with you if you fear an abusive ex, and you are afraid they will come back and hurt you again. Take this dream as a warning to never take them back and see a counselor if you feel you would benefit from it. To read what the cards say about tough times, see here: Tarot Readings for Bad Times

Dreams About Ignoring Your Ex

Sometimes you dream of ignoring your ex because your mind is telling you that you have moved on from them, and it is as if you were never together to begin with. Some people say that we learn something from every relationship we have and sometimes, it seems like all we learn is that an ex was not worth the time we spent with them. This dream can be telling you to just live as if you never met your ex because they contributed nothing. The dream can also be telling you to literally ignore your ex from now on when you see them or hear from them. Virgos ignore people they want to with no guilt and you can read about them here: Virgo Traits and Love Compatibility

Dreams About Marrying Your Ex

Dreams About Marrying Your Ex

This dream has one of two meanings. One is wishful thinking. Not everybody is happy about a breakup, and they never stop wondering what could have been if they had stayed with their ex. A dream of marrying your ex could also be a prophetic dream telling you they are the one for you and you should get back together. Stranger things have happened, you know. The author married her ex after being apart for almost two years, believe it or not and they have lived happily ever after. If you love your ex, reach out and tell them. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. To read what the Minor Arcana has to say about love, see here: Minor Arcana Cards for Love

Your ex is your ex for a reason. Maybe nobody did anything wrong, and you are just meant to be friends instead of lovers. Maybe things were bad, and you are healing right now. It takes time to get used to not having your ex in your life and not think about them all the time, but you will get used to it. Sometimes you have dreams about an ex, and while sometimes, that is just you missing them, other times dreams about your ex bring important messages you should listen to. May your dreams reveal the truth in ways you understand them. So Be It.

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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Spiritual Blossom. She has written for Mysticsense and PaganPagesOrg emag.