There are signs that you found your one and only. Discover what those signs are and find out your own criteria for deciding whether you found Mr. Right.
Finding the right person to love isn't always easy. You would think it would be all about compatibility, how you treat each other, and deciding to spend your life together but it seems like it's so much more than that. They say you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince, but how do you know when you have found him? Join SpiritualBlossom to find out. Learn what they mean when they say someone is Mr. Right and signs he's the one. Find out what things will alert you that he is not the one, and nine things to put on your checklist to decide if he is the one for you. Just because you haven't settled down with somebody yet doesn't mean you won't. Knowing how to tell someone is a keeper is half the battle, so read on to find out how.
What’s a Mr. Right?
The man who is your perfect long-term partner is what they called Mr. Right. Typically it refers to a man who you will marry. He fits with your life. He loves you. You seem like you're made for each other. Of course, in modern times, not everybody gets married just once. Even if you get married more than once, not just anybody will be your Mr. Right. You might think you found Mr. Right but you're not sure. Mr. Right will seem different from other men. For one thing he will be more serious about you than some other guys have been. He will be focused on your relationship and he will fit with your life.
Everybody meets romantic partners who are with them short term, but that's not a Mr. Right. You will get along better with him than some other men and you will make more sense in one another’s lives. You will look toward the future together and will love the same things in life. You will be a team. He might not be the sexiest man you've ever dated, the richest, or the best looking. He will be the best man for you though. Committing long term to someone is a big move. Committing to a Mr. Right is easy because he will be committed too. If dating is difficult with someone, it’s probably because he is not Mr. Right. Learn more about the difficulties of dating here: Why is it So Difficult to Date People?
Signs He’s the One
It doesn't have to be a big mystery as to whether or not he's the one. There are a few signs that he definitely is. If he talks about you like you're a couple and uses the word ”we” to tell people about you, chances are he's the one. If you resemble each other in your mannerisms, he could be the one. If you don't fight dirty and you have healthy disagreements where you problem solve together, chances are, he's the one.
He says “We”
The number one sign that you have found the right man is that you are sharing a life together and he talks about that. He will tell people about the time you spend together and the plans that you make together. You will tell people about the life and the home that you're building together. He will talk about the two of you as a unit, a team. Even though you are separate human beings, and you have your own lives, those lives will have intertwined so much that they're going forward together and he will say that.
You Resemble Each Other
When he's the one, you will remind people of each other. That will be because you're already on the same wavelength and you're on the same path. That is the path of life that you're walking together. Some people joke that real couples look alike, but you will. You will embrace the same type of lifestyle, will spend time supporting one another's interests, and you will do a lot of things together. You may have a similar family culture, and you may even behave like one another. He might even be your soulmate. Find out how to find your soulmate here: What’s a Soulmate/How Do You Find Them?
Disagreements are Healthy
All couples have disagreements and some couples even fight. The way that you behave when you're fighting says a lot about how you view each other. If you view a fight as something that you resolve together, that's very healthy. If you view one another as competition or the enemy, he's not the one. When you are a couple you are on the same team playing the game of life together. Disagreements will arise in any relationship. Next time you have a disagreement, pay close attention to how the two of you behave. If you work together to solve things, he is probably the one.
Signs He’s Not the One
There are obvious signs that someone is not Mr. Right. If he is physically or emotionally absent from the relationship, you know he's not the one. If he does things that hurt you, you don't need that and a Mr. Right would not do that. Most of all, no matter how much you like someone, if you have so little in common that you cannot reconcile a life together, sorry but he isn’t the one.
He’s Absent
How can you have a relationship with someone who isn't there? Maybe he comes and goes and leaves you wondering when he's coming back. That's not actively participating in a relationship. Maybe he's physically there but his mind is elsewhere. He's still not engaged in the relationship. Maybe his life is just so busy he really doesn't have time for a real relationship with anybody. You don't need that. Then there are the people who want the benefit of a relationship and will give you tiny particles of attention just to keep you hooked, but they don't care about you. That's called breadcrumbing. Read more about that here: What is Breadcrumbing? Know the Signs
He Hurts You
People who love you will not go out of their way to hurt you. Sometimes someone who we love accidentally hurts our feelings. Any of us could make that mistake, including you. If someone hurts you over and over again it doesn't matter if you think you found the one, keep looking. It’s not him. Love does not hurt. The absence of love is what hurts. Once someone does not respect your feelings, does not take your sensitivities into account, or repeatedly shames you for something that you can't control, that's not love. It hurts. Don't waste your time with hurtful people.
You Have Nothing in Common
They say opposites attract, but if you're too different you can't have a life together. That doesn't mean that you have all the same opinions and do all the same things every day. It just means that you have to have some similarities so that you can live together. You can have different hobbies, different prefaces, and even have differences in your personality. You have to share the same values. You have to share the same lifestyle. You have to have the same goals in life. If you have nothing in common with a man, you are better off single than dating him. Find out why here: Happy Singles - Is Being Single Better?
Mr. Right Checklist
Besides the most obvious three signs that he's either Mr. Right or not, there are nine things that you need to take into account when you're deciding if someone is Mr. Right. Well, actually there's eight. The ninth thing for the checklist depends on you. He needs to meet all these criteria or he is not Mr. Right.
He Won’t Go Away
A man who refuses to disappear from your life unless you tell him to stands a very good chance of being a longtime partner for you. Mr. Right won't want to leave your side for very long if at all, and he certainly won't want to leave your life. He will be around you as often as he can, and when he's not there he will be making plans to get together with you. That's a sure sign that someone is right and fits in your life.
He Always Calls
A sure sign that a man is not right for you is that he doesn't call, or that he doesn't call often. When you first meet each other, maybe he won't call a lot, but as time goes on, if he doesn't, move on. Mr. Right will want to talk to you as often as possible and when he can't see you in person he will use the telephone. There is no such thing as being too busy for the people you love, so if he doesn't call often, forget him. If he doesn’t call, it is disappointing. Find out how to deal with disappointments here: Facing Disappointment-Coping with Life’s Letdowns
He’s Your “Person”
Who is your go to person when you've had a bad day? Who is the person that you go to for the best advice? Who is the person you want to call first when you've had a victory? Who's the person who you'd rather be around more than anyone else? Mr. Right. Someone who will be your significant other long term will be the most important person in your life. If he is your person like that, he is Mr. Right
You Click
If you truly like and understand someone, especially right after you meet, that means that you really click. You will feel a strong connection, understanding, and very comfortable with each other. That doesn't always develop on the first meeting, but it will develop very soon after meeting them. You will click with Mr. Right. You click with your friends too. Learn about the love we share with friends here: All About the Love of Friends
You Have the Same Goals
It's very important that you have the same goals in life with someone if you want them to be your significant other. You will have the same views about building a family, building a home, and what kind of things you want to do as you grow old together. If one of you really wants children and the other one doesn't, your goals are too different. If one of you wants to spend your time together traveling and the other one just wants to stay home, that's going to cause problems. You have to have the same goals in life about what kind of things you want or things aren't going to work out.
You Respect Each Other
It's fair to say, sometimes you will get annoyed with your partner. They may have habits, odors, and baggage that you wish they didn't. However, the amount of respect that you give to each other, your boundaries, your needs, and your basic integrity as human beings matters. If neither one of you has any respect for each other, you are completely wrong for each other's lives. Honoring boundaries when you tell each other no shows respect. Learn about the power of the word no here: How to Say No: Reclaim Your Power | SpiritualBlossom
He Is There for You
Are you spending time with a man who only wants you around for fun times, but disappears when you're sick? Are you dating someone that won't pick up the phone unless it's convenient for them? Did he refuse to give you a ride when your car broke down? Did he silence you when you were trying to tell him about your bad day? That's Mr. Wrong. Mr. Right does exactly the opposite. He helps you when you're sick or injured. When he sees that you're calling him he picks up the phone. When your car breaks down, he's right there to pick you up. People in long term relationships help each other through good times and bad in life. If a man doesn't want to be with you during the bad times, he is not Mr. Right.
Things Are Better with Him
Relationships are supposed to improve our lives. If your life is better because of a man, that's very important. If someone makes your life worse, they can't possibly be the right person for you. Relationships are supposed to make us happier, make life easier, and make us enjoy life more. If he's not doing that for you, he's not the one. If someone loves you, they make your life better. Find out signs someone lives you here: How Do I Know if He Loves Me?
Your Criteria
The most important thing on the checklist to decide whether someone is Mr. Right or not is your personal criteria. Do you want a man in your life that makes you laugh? A man that can't couldn't possibly be Mr. Right. Do you want a man in your life who participates in an active lifestyle with you? A sedentary man couldn't possibly be Mr. Right. Do you want a man in your life who raises children with you? A man who says he won't do that is not Mr. Right. There will be people who you meet who insist that they are Mr. Right, but you have to listen to yourself if you feel like they're not.
It might seem like a mystery if someone is Mr. Right, but it shouldn’t be. The man who is the right one for you will be present in your life, be the number one person in your life, give you respect, and be there for you when you need him instead of just for good times. No matter what anybody tells you, especially a man who wants to keep you, you have to listen to your own heart. Only you can decide if he's Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong.
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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Mysticsense and SpiritualBlossom, and she writes for PaganPages.Org emag.
