Dealing with disappointment in life can be exhausting, but believe it or not, coping with disappointments life can throw at you is easier than you would think it is. Find out when to accept things and when to change them and cope with disappointment.
Disappointments in life might leave you wondering why you bother to try sometimes. Career letdowns, heartbreak from relationships, health struggles, and family drama can make you feel like your life is ruined- or not even worth dealing with, but it is. No matter how tough times can be and how disappointing it all is, there is still hope. Join SpiritualBlossom to find out how to deal with disappointments in life. Discover why we can’t choose everything, but we can choose how we deal with it all. Find out the best way to deal with disappointments and best of all, how to make changes to make life better.
Why is Life So Disappointing?
“Life is a great disappointment.”- Oscar Wilde
Maybe life itself isn't a great disappointment, but it feels like it is sometimes, doesn't it? Sometimes that happens because we have preconceived ideas. Other times we've worked hard for something and we haven't accomplished our goal. It can be disappointing when relationships go badly. Our health can fail which can make everything go badly. Our family can misbehave or treat us poorly. Then, we are disappointed because sometimes dreams fall through.
All of these things are disappointing because it makes life more difficult, or it hurts us. When life disappoints us, it can make us feel like giving up or I can just make us feel betrayed by life. Combatting the disappointments in life may seem impossible, but it can be done. We are more powerful and resilient than we give ourselves credit for a lot of times. Instead of focusing on how disappointed we are, if we focus on finding solutions it helps. What are some simple ways to battle different disappointments in life though?
Career Disappointments
“Sometimes we create our own heartbreaks through expectation.”- Brad Warner
Disappointments in careers happen to pretty much everyone. When you first get started on your career you may have an idea of what success will be like and what kind of things that you'd like to accomplish. As time goes on you will discover that you have strengths that you had not realized and you also have weaknesses that you had not realized. You may become burned out or go into the wrong career field and have to start a new career. You may work on a team where you're not valued, and you don't get the treatment that you deserve. You may work very hard and fail to accomplish the things that you had wanted to.
A report in 2022 stated that 60% of the people polled were emotionally detached at work and 19 percent were absolutely miserable. Half of the workers in the United States reported being stressed at work every day and 18% were downright angry. The number one thing that people said made them feel dissatisfied at work was being treated unfairly. Burnout was also cited as were time pressures and heavy workloads. Read more here: Job unhappiness is at a staggering all-time high, according to Gallup
What is to be done when you are disappointed at work? You can either tolerate it, speak up to change it, or leave. Just keep in mind that not all managers or employers are open to suggestions from employees. So, keep your resume up to date, network with your peers, and keep your eyes open for any job opportunities floating around. You never know when you may want to leave a job.
Relationship Disappointments
“ Nothing hurts more than being disappointed by the person you thought would never hurt you.” – Anonymous
A 2024 report said that nearly half of Americans said they were stressed about their love life and they said dating today is harder than it was 10 years ago. Stress about meeting people and having a first date can be very high and feeling guilty about the possibility of hurting someone by rejecting them upsets people. Those worries aren't unfounded. Some experts report that about 70% of new couples will have a breakup in their first year together. Dating the wrong person, becoming complacent and no longer paying attention to your partner, and expecting the rush of excitement from new love to last forever set relationships up for failure and disappointment. Read more here: Why Relationships Fail in the First Year
Older relationships fail too though, not just new ones. When you meet someone and you're excited about them you may overlook things that will cause problems down the road. You may have the belief that if you love each other, you can solve any problem. You may be with someone just because you're afraid to be alone. There's no guarantee that a relationship won't disappoint you and there's no guarantee that things will work out. Just try to be objective and honest with each other in a new relationship. If things aren't working out admit it and move on. Read here for more love advice. The Best Advice for Love
Health Issues
“ When you have your health, you have everything. When you do not have your health, nothing else matters at all.”- Augusten Burroughs
If you live long enough, you will have health problems. If you're lucky, your doctors will work with you and resolve any issues quickly with very little suffering or expense. A lot of people, however, have chronic health problems that limit them from doing things that they want to and that cost a lot of money. These health problems can completely change your life and disappoint you every day. The first thing to do when you have health problems that disappoint you, is not to beat yourself up for feeling disappointed. It is normal to feel dismayed when you are suffering.
Next, don't give up trying to get better. If your doctor isn't helping, find another doctor. Read, research, and talk to as many people as possible to find out anything you can do to help yourself to feel better. Adapt and make whatever changes you need to so that you can function. There are some health problems that will not get better because we are only human. There are a lot of things that you can do to improve your health though. Healing might feel like a miracle, but are miracles even real? Read here to find out: Do Miracles Really Happen?
Family Problems
“ Every family is dysfunctional, whether they want to admit it or not.”- Shailene Woodley
People who we don't care about have a difficult time disappointing us. It is the people who we love that disappoints us most. That is why our family members can be the most disappointing people in our lives. They might be entitled, rude, abusive, or negligent. They may expect us to tolerate any type of mistreatment they want to throw at us, or they might be overly critical, imposing their beliefs upon everybody else. What can you do about your disappointing family problems?
Unfortunately, you can't change who your family is, but you can decide how much you will tolerate. Learning to use the word ”no” is extremely important, especially with family because they will always be your family. So, no, you don't have to lend money to your deadbeat cousin. No, you don't have to stay at your in-law's house if you are allergic to their cat. No, you don't have to go to three different houses for the holidays and feel exhausted the next day. People are going to behave the way that they behave, but you don't have to stand for it. Never forget that if you can’t count on family you can count on friends and you can read about the love of friends here: All About the Love of Friends
Unrealized Dreams
“Sucking at something is the first step towards being sorta good at something.”- Ryan North
Everybody has big dreams. Dreams are the things that we want to accomplish in our life and have for ourselves. The more dreams you have, the greater the chance of being disappointed if you can't achieve something. What do you do when that happens? You will have to make a decision. You will have to decide whether to keep trying, or move on to another dream. If you try a lot of different things, you will fail at some of them, but on the other side of a failure awaits valuable lessons you learned and can apply to being good at other things. Read about how to make dreams come true here: How to Make All Your Dreams Come True
How to Deal with Disappointments
“One’s best success comes after their greatest disappointments.”- Henry Ward Beecher
Chances are, you will have disappointments often. The way to deal with that depends on what works best for you. Some people prefer to have no expectations, so they don't have to deal with disappointment. Other people decide to create positive change so they're no longer disappointed. Other people have expectations and realize that they can't change everything so they accept that they can't control everything that happens.
Expect Nothing
Some people have no expectations or hopes, and they wait to see what happens. If you do this, you can't be disappointed. It's very difficult to have no expectations whatsoever though, isn't it? If you haven't mastered having no expectations, you can practice a little bit now. Don't tell yourself how things can and should go in a new situation, and just show up and see what happens. That is very difficult to do, especially if you're someone who is an organizer, or a planner. With practice it gets easier, so give it a try now. Virgos are great organizers and you can read about that Zodiac Sign here: Virgo Traits and Love Compatibility
Change Things
Sometimes things are just unacceptable, aren’t they? There is only one thing you can do about unacceptable things- change them. Change is difficult, but necessary, and change is always happening. So, why not try to control the direction change takes? What if change isn’t coming quickly, or it seems like it’s not coming at all? First, remind yourself of why you decided to make these changes to begin with. Next, take a break and regain your energy if you need to. Then, get up, and move forward with creating changes. The change you want probably won’t happen on its own. What else is there to do but try?
Accept That You Can’t Control Everything
“How you handle the challenges of your life will define your life,” – Billy Cox
The hardest thing to accept about life is that you can’t control everything that happens. Accepting that fact will save you a lot of stress and keep you from lying awake at night trying to think of how to influence things you can’t. There are important things to remember about this. First, sometimes better things await than what you wanted to begin with. Next, sometimes, you are disappointed because you wanted things that were never yours to begin with. Finally, there isn’t always a reason why things disappoint you- things just do sometimes, and it hurts.
Sometimes Something Better Awaits
It's ok if we can't control everything, because sometimes, something even better than you were expecting is waiting for you. Colonel Saunders was fired from more than one job before he founded Kentucky Fried Chicken, which is still successful today. Dick Cheney dropped out of Yale, but years later became Vice President of the United States. Pop star Lady Gaga was dropped by her record label after only three months, but went on to become such a famous singer and actress, she earns millions of dollars. Each of these people moved on from serious disappointments to better things. You can too. Something better is on the way.
Sometimes Things Weren’t Yours
Sometimes, we set ourselves up for disappointment by working too hard for things that are not ours to begin with. We fight to stay in relationships with people who don't care about us. We fight to stay at dead-end jobs because we're stubborn. We fight to continue experiences that we're not benefiting from. Situations like this can create more disappointment than anything else. We can't control whether things work out sometimes. When things aren't working out these aren't the things that are supposed to be in our lives, so we have to let them go. Read about how to attract what is yours here: More About The Law of Attraction
Sometimes Things Just Hurt
Sometimes, there is no reason why things are disappointing. They just are, and it hurts. Accepting that we can't change things won't make them stop hurting in the beginning, but it helps us to move forward. Pretending that we're not hurt won't make the pain go away either. Accept that things hurt sometimes, allow yourself to feel the way that you feel, and give yourself as much time as you need to heal. Healing will come.
Life is full of a lot of wonderful things, and it’s also filled with disappointments. Sometimes, we can fix things, but other times, we can’t. It’s not fair, but it happens. To deal with disappointment, some people expect nothing and wait to see what will happen. Other people tolerate disappointments, while others change things that disappoint them. Some balance their expectations by accepting there are some things that can be changed and others that can’t. One thing is true, no matter how you decide to deal with disappointments- even when something disappointing happens- there are still other wonderful things in life. So, keep trying, keep hoping, keep changing things, and keep living a wonderful life.
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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Mysticsense and SpiritualBlossom, and she writes for The Green Egg Magazine and PaganPages.Org emag.
