Caring about people is half the work in relationships- the other half is whether they care about you or not. Find out how to tell when someone does not care about you, and how to deal with them.
Since the time we were kids, people have been teaching us that other people’s feelings matter. If you listened, you have spent your life being considerate of other people’s feelings. In your relationships, you may go out of your way to show people how much you care, but there is something you may not have been taught- it matters if other people show you they care too. Join SpiritualBlossom to read all about what to do about people who do not care. Find out signs someone cares and signs they don’t. Then, find out exactly what to do with people who show you that they just don’t care. Being caring is half the importance of relationships. Read on to learn what to do when other people don’t do their share.
What is Caring?
Caring means you feel concerned about someone. When you care about someone, you want their needs, both physical and emotional, to be met. It means you love them, like them, or just feel a wonderful fondness for them. Strangers can care about each other too, but typically, when you really care about somebody, it means that you have a personal relationship with them that's meaningful.
When you care about someone, you want to protect their feelings, you want to give them the things that they need, and you especially want to let them know. Some people like to say that they care about everybody in the whole world, but that's not the same as caring about the people who you have in your life. The more we care about each other, the closer we grow to one another, the more we experience life together, and the more we support one another when we need it. We support one another in good times, cheering on each other's victories, and in bad times, we are a shoulder to lean on while we're gaining strength. Just because you care about someone doesn’t mean you should be selfless. Find out why here: The Case Against Being Selfless
What is Uncaring?
Being uncaring is the opposite of caring. When someone is uncaring, someone else’s well-being won't matter to them. If someone doesn't care, other people won't matter in their lives and they won't be considerate of their feelings. They won't be careful what they say around them because they don't care if what they say is upsetting. Some people say that uncaring people are deeply selfish people, but that's not necessarily true. They may care very deeply for some people, just not for everyone.
Then again, there are plenty of deeply selfish people who actually don't care. It shows in their daily life. They are completely focused on only themselves and what they want. They base their relationships on how they can take advantage of other people and they don't care that they take too much. They will only come around when they want something and won't be available when you need them. They might pretend to care about you just to keep you around, but over time it will be very obvious that they don't care. When you realize someone does not care about you, it can be a deal breaker. Read more about deal breakers here: What Are Deal Breakers?
Why Don’t Some People Care?
Some people are just not naturally caring individuals. There are some people who think only of themselves and what they can get from other people. They are not good at sharing, but they want everything that you have. If they do something for you, they expect a lot of praise and they remind you of it every chance that they get. Some people were just born self-centered and they don't care about anyone but themselves. These people never change.
Some people were taught to be uncaring. That can be a trauma response to being broken hearted or failing taken for granted in a relationship. Some people are uncaring because their parents taught them that was okay. Their parents may have treated them like their little Princess or Prince who could do no wrong and they spoiled them by going above and beyond, giving them everything their little hearts desired. As they grow up, they may expect other people to treat them the same way and only have relationships with people who spoil them. Some families just aren’t worth the trouble, or are they? Find out here: Are Relationships with Your Relatives Worth It?
Some people are uncaring because they feel like there's no reason to be caring. They get everything they want from someone whether they care about them or not, so they just take instead of reciprocating. It can be very confusing when these people who don't care about you act like they care about everyone else. It's not your fault that they don't care about you. If you continue to do things for them and they don't do anything for you just reinforces the behavior and allows it to continue. No matter what the reason someone is uncaring, it all comes down to one underlying reason- They are uncaring because they get by with it.
How to Tell Someone Doesn’t Care
When someone doesn't care about you, the things that they say and do prove that. Things that they say will show no regard for your feelings and they will be very inconsiderate in the things that they do.
Their Words
Some people are highly opinionated individuals and speak their minds. That doesn't mean that their words have to be insensitive. If someone insults you, doesn't call you regularly, or deliberately says hurtful things to you, that means they don't care about you. Everybody makes mistakes and speaks rashly sometimes or says things they later regret. People who don't care about you won't regret it when their words hurt. They will keep hurting you with their words.
Their Actions
If someone doesn't spend time with you, doesn't do nice things for you, and doesn't include you in their life, they are not busy. They don't care about you enough. It doesn't take very long to call somebody and tell them that you're working overtime. It doesn't take very long to text someone and see if they want to get together in a week. Nobody really has time to spend with anybody. We all have to prioritize the people who are important to us and make time. If somebody doesn't make you a priority, it shows in their actions that they don't care about you. One Zodiac sign that will make you a priority if they care about you is Leo and you can read about them here: Leo Traits and Love Compatibility
How To Tell Someone Cares
When someone cares about you, they will make it clear on a regular basis. The things they say and do will show caring and consideration. They operate exactly the opposite way of people who don't care about you.
Their Words
When somebody cares about you, they tell you. They don't just say “I care about you”, or “I love you”. When they use kind, gentle tones of voice to tell you they care about your feelings. When people encourage you, instead of criticizing you unfairly, they show that they care about you. When people don't keep communication open with with people who have hurt you, they show that they care about you. When people make it a point to call and talk to you regularly when they can't come to see you in person, their words show that they care about you. When someone is nice enough to point something out without verbally attacking you for it because they want to help, that means they care about you. One Zodiac sign that will make sure to call you when they care about you as Libra and you can read about them here: Libra Traits and Love Compatibility
Their Actions
The way that people feel about you shows in their behavior through their actions. People who are violent with you, take things from you that you can't do without, or only use you for sex and then leave do not care about you. People who cheat on you, won't spend time with you, or make fun of you don't care about you. People who ignore you, leave your house dirty when they visit, or place unfair demands on you don't care about you. Don't let them fool you, even if they say they care.
Can You Make People Care?
In short, no, you cannot make people care about you. When you first meet people, they are strangers. With time, maybe they will fall in love with you- but you can’t force it. You definitely cannot force someone you have known and loved for a long time to have a change of heart and suddenly love you. There is no formula to instill feelings of love in people. Talking to them, expressing undying devotion, begging them, or going out of your way to do things for them won’t endear you to them. People either love you or they don’t. None of us can change that. Here are signs someone loves you: How Do I Know if He Loves Me?
What is Wrong with Them?
When someone doesn’t care about you, friends might tell you something is broken inside of them. That might make you feel sorry for them, and like you can love them so much, whatever is broken can be fixed. Guess what? Nothing is wrong with them. Something is wrong with you. It’s not that you are not “good enough”. What’s wrong is your attitude.
Nobody knows exactly why or how we decide who to love or care about. Nobody knows why you care about someone who does not care about you, or why they do not care about you. That’s just how things are. Instead of fighting someone when they let you know they don’t care, accept they are expressing their true feelings. It’s not going to be easy. It’s going to hurt, but what hurts most is holding on and expecting someone to care about you who doesn’t.
What to Do If They Don’t Care
Once you realize someone does not care about you, instead of begging them or hanging on with false hope, you have to make a decision. How much time and energy do you want to devote to someone who simply doesn’t care about you? You have probably developed unhealthy behaviors that keep you attached to someone who has no emotional attachment to you, and once you realize this, it is time to change. Care less, even if it hurts, stop doing for them, and leave them where they are. Move forward into new, loving relationships instead.
Care Less
Perhaps the most difficult thing to do when you realize someone doesn't care about you is to learn to care less about them than you already do. That can take a lot of time, emotional work, and magic, but it can be done. To use magic to make you care less about someone, light a single candle in front of a mirror, and say the following words while looking deep into your own eyes: “ I matter. Anybody who doesn't understand that doesn't matter to me.” Repeat this affirmation anytime you need to. Care about them less and yourself more by cultivating self-love. Find out how here: Practicing Self Love
Stop Doing for Them
While you're working on caring less about someone who doesn't care about you, withdraw from them. Stop doing things for them. It's not like they do anything for you besides take what you give. When they realize that you've stopped doing for them, they might be on their best behavior for a while, trying to get you back. Redirect your energies and do things for people who do care for you, and do things for yourself. What kind of things do you wish that this uncaring person had done for you? Buying flowers, cards, gifts, or taking you out may have been things they never did. Do it for yourself. You deserve it.
Leave
Leaving a relationship with someone who doesn't care is the healthiest thing that you can do. Giving a long explanation to someone who doesn't care about you, but who benefits from the fact that you care about them, might result in them begging you to take them back. Don't do it. This uncaring person might be someone who you coparent with, a member of your family, or maybe even a coworker. You might not be able to completely step out of the relationship, but emotionally you can leave. You can still be cordial to them and communicate with them, but emotionally just let them go. Find out how the Zodiac Signs break up here: Breakups with Each of the Signs
Move On
No matter what kind of relationship you must let go of when you realize someone doesn't care about you, it's something that can still be done. Moving on from an uncaring relationship is best done when you focus on building stronger relationships with the people who do care about you. Look around and see who is in your life that cares about your emotional well-being. They don't just take, but they also give. Leave behind uncaring individuals and focus on people who do care. It's the best way to move on.
People show how they feel about you through words and actions. If they care, they'll do things like call you, spend time with you, and be emotionally supportive. If they don't care, they will make excuses and they will not do these things. When you realize someone doesn't care about you, care less for them and move on. There are plenty of caring people waiting to love you. Leave behind uncaring people and find the people who do care!
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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Mysticsense and SpiritualBlossom, and she writes for PaganPages.Org emag and Green Egg Magazine.
