Things like breakups, betrayals, or being rejected can make you think you will never find love. Find out why you should believe in love again no matter how bad your heart has been broken.
Love can be the greatest thing to ever happen to you one minute, and the next, it can feel like the worst. When you’re cheated on, in a loveless relationship, or trust is broken, your relationship can disappear in a heartbeat. It can leave you wondering if love is real, and if you should ever open yourself up to it again. Join SpiritualBlossom to find out why, no matter how heartbroken you are, you can still believe in love. Find out what love truly is, and why it doesn’t always work out. Find out all the great reasons to be open to love again, and then how to do it. One bad relationship convinces some people to close themselves off to love forever. Read on to find out how to never let that happen.
What is Love?
Love is feeling emotionally close to someone. You have strong affection for them and you will care about their feelings and how well they're doing. You will want to do things for them and make their lives better. If you truly love someone, you're more concerned about how you make them feel than how they make you feel. You might find yourself thinking about them during the day and wishing you were together when you were apart. Love means you want someone to be a big part of your life and you can't imagine ever being without them.
When you love someone, you make them a priority. You will put them first and put other people after them. When you really love someone, they strongly affect your life. They have the ability to make you feel better, but they also have the ability to hurt you more than anyone else could. They have the ability to break your heart, and if you love someone more than anyone else, if things don't work out with them, you might worry that you will never love again. Is it love or infatuation? Read here to find out: How to Tell if You Are in Love or Infatuated
Why Doesn’t Love Always Work Out?
Sometimes, no matter how much you love somebody, your relationship doesn't work out. That could happen for a lot of different reasons. One of you may have been cheating and you may have different lifestyles or different goals in life. Trust might be broken or one of you may not be in love. Commitment might not be there. Sometimes a special situation like these things doesn't exist and your relationship just doesn't work out because it wasn't meant to.
Infidelity
Cheating in a relationship means your partner is dating or having sex with someone besides you, and it’s not an open relationship. If you were cheated on in your relationship, you’re not alone. Pleazeme online reports startling statistics. They reported that 44% of people said they cheated on the relationship being studied. That is just a little less than half! Being cheated on can destroy trust and is often seen as a dealbreaker and grounds for a breakup. Read more form Pleazeme here: Infidelity Statistics 2025 - Age, Gender & Cheating Charts
Different Lifestyles
It's difficult to work out a life together with someone whose lifestyle is radically different from yours. If you are a highly active individual, being in a relationship with someone who doesn't like to go places or do things can be very difficult. Disagreements on major beliefs like how to spend money, religion, and politics can split people apart too. If you're someone who's heavily involved in the arts, being with someone who hates the arts can be impossible. Workaholics have a hard time staying in relationships with people who want to spend more time at home with them. All of these things can make a relationship end.
Different Goals
One big reason why people break up is that they have different goals in life. If you want kids and your partner doesn't, it might break you up. If you are ready for marriage and your partner isn't, you could be headed toward a breakup. If saving money is a major goal and your partner spends money erratically, you might not be able to work things out. Being in a relationship makes you partners in life and if you can't work together, this can break you apart. Infidelity Statistics 2025 - Age, Gender & Cheating Charts
Broken Trust
Some people say when trust is gone, there's nothing left. If you catch your partner lying, cheating, or if they're not the person who you thought that they were, you may never trust them again. A lot of people need trust in their relationship to allow themselves to be emotionally vulnerable to somebody else. One word or moment can take away trust that was built for years, and sometimes there's no going back.
You’re Not Both in Love
Most people prefer to be in relationships with people who they're in love with. If you're not both in love, you cannot work things out. Some people stay in loveless relationships because they're more afraid of being alone than anything. Other people say they can't stay in a relationship with someone who they don't love or who can't love them. Sometimes it takes a while to realize that there's no love there, but once the love is gone, quite often so is the relationship. It’s always important to be realistic about relationships. Find out how here: Embrace Reality - Breaking Away from Unreality
Lack of Commitment
When you first meet someone and start dating, you're not committed to each other. Some people are ready for a commitment sooner than other people are. If you disagree on the time frame for commitment, your relationship might not work out. Some people are ready to commit after a short matter of months, while other people refuse to commit even after many years. If you're not on the same page about being committed to the relationship, the relationship may be over.
It Wasn’t Meant To
Some people say that we come into one another's lives for a reason and once we fulfill that, the relationship is over. Some people are with us for our whole lives and some people walk with us for a very short time. Sometimes nothing went wrong and it's really nobody's fault. Things just ended. If someone is meant to come into your life temporarily to help you, to teach you a lesson, or to help you to fulfill something in your life, the relationship may end very quickly and surprise you. It might feel impossible to forget about someone who is gone, but it can be done. Find out how here: How Can I Forget Someone? Spells for Moving On
Why Love Again?
When a relationship with somebody who you loved didn't work out, you can give up on love entirely, but you shouldn't. This one person who things didn't work out with doesn't define your entire life, and that wasn't the only relationship you had. If you had a falling out with your best friend, but you have a great marriage, stay open to love because it's there in your life. On the other hand, if you were engaged and the relationship fell apart, that doesn't mean that you'll never find someone to marry. Speaking of marriage, some people go their whole lives without getting married and they're happy. Are you one of those people?
That doesn't mean there isn't any love in your life. You have your friends, family, you may have children, and you may have pets. Love is all around you, all you have to do is be open to it. You also have to be open to give love. There's just something about human beings that we need someone to love, and we need someone to love us. Think back through your entire life. There's never been a time when you didn't love someone. There will never be a time when you don't feel love for someone.
It's understandable to grieve when a relationship is over. It’s okay to take a break while you're healing and not be open to bringing new people into your life. Just don't tell yourself that the person who's gone to your life is the only person that you have ever had any sort of a relationship with and will be the only person you ever did. You may need to lean on the other people who you love while you're getting over the end of your relationship. That's what love is for. Be patient with your healing. Learn all about becoming patient here: Learning the Fine Art of Patience
How to Fall in Love Again
Falling in love again after heartbreak might seem impossible, but it's going to happen. You don't necessarily have to actively look for it, but there are some things that you can do emotionally to make yourself more receptive to love. First, no matter how bad you've been heartbroken, make sure to always believe in love. Open yourself to the possibility of love and allow yourself to be vulnerable. Allow new experiences and be open to meeting new people. Get out and explore life and have fun and then relax. Love happens on its own time frame.
Believe
The messages that you give yourself are very important. Belief does not create reality, but it decides how you think and that dictates your behavior. If you tell yourself that love isn't possible, somebody can walk right into your life and you will be completely closed off to the possibility of having lifelong love with them. If you believe that love is possible, love is good, and there is love for you, it opens your mind and your heart to the possibilities of love everywhere. If you don't believe in love, you will shut down completely.
Open Yourself
Once you believe in the possibility of love, emotionally open yourself. Accept an invitation from the cute neighbor. Volunteer somewhere that you are needed. Open your life and your home to a homeless animal. Don't shut down emotionally. Share your feelings, listen to other people's feelings, and accept shared experiences. You won't necessarily fall in love with the first person who you meet, but you might. Stay open to the possibility of love everywhere you go, and it will help love to come into your life. You might already know someone who you will share love with- but they got away before. Read here to see if love with them is possible: The One Who Got Away- Could Love Still Happen?
Allow New Experiences
Let's face it, our lives are busy. We get stuck in our routines because it makes things simple. We're also comfortable in routines, especially after some kind of a heartbreak. The reliability of things that have always worked makes us feel safe and comfortable. If you don't change anything, nothing in your life will change. That doesn't mean you have to throw out everything in your life. It just means that you have to allow yourself to be open to new experiences. New love, for example. Date outside of your type, let somebody talk you into doing something you've never done before, and just be open to new things. Love can come in that way.
Meet People
After a heartbreak, you might be having trust issues. Don't fall into the trap of telling yourself that all men are the same or all women are the same, because they are not. One person broke things off with you. The rest of the people in the world didn't. Relationships fail for a reason, and the number one reason they fail is you're in a relationship with the wrong person. Don't hold other people accountable for what someone else did. Give new people a chance and that opens you up to the possibility of love. You might not be in the mood to date because dating can be difficult. Find out why and what to do about it here: Why is it So Difficult to Date People?
Go Have Fun
One great way to open yourself to love is to go and do things that you love. When you're out enjoying your life, you absolutely glow. That draws people to you better than sitting around being bitter because you have a broken heart. Life is all about living and having wonderful experiences. What things did you have no time for when you were in the relationship that's now over? Why can't you go do those things now? Sign up for that class. Pursue that hobby you haven't had time for. Take those trips you wanted that your ex wouldn't join you for. Go have fun and you'll meet new people having fun and love will happen.
Relax
Love does not come on demand. Nobody knows why we come into one another’s lives during the moment we do. Nobody knows why we fall in love with certain people and not others. Don't try to force it, don't tell yourself that you're on a deadline, and don't try to fall in love with someone if it's not happening on its own. Love will happen. Sometimes it happens when you're looking for love, and sometimes it happens when you least expect it. Just relax and let it happen on its own.
Love Is all around us. It's in our hometown, in the next town over, and sometimes it's right next door. New love can happen when you're looking for it or when you're least expecting it. Just open yourself to falling in love again, no matter how heartbroken you are right now. Great ways to fall in love again are to believe in love, allow new experiences, and go out and have fun. Every day is an opportunity to meet someone to love and to build a beautiful life with them. So relax, love is out there, no matter how heartbroken you may have been.
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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Mysticsense and SpiritualBlossom, and she writes for PaganPages.Org emag and Green Egg Magazine.
