When relationships end, sometimes, you’re still emotionally connected- and that can be a problem. Find out how to cut emotional bonds using spells and magic, freeing yourself for good.
Some people come into our lives forever- and we wish other people would go away forever. Is that even possible after a relationship? It is, even though it might seem shameful, or worse- impossible. Sometimes you can use mundane methods to cut ties completely with someone, but sometimes you need a little magic to help. Join SpiritualBlossom to find out how to break emotional bonds from relationships both ways. Find out what breaking free from a relationship means and when you should cut ties with someone entirely. Then, find out six simple ways- three mundane, three magical- to cut people off. We might love someone and originally think they will be with us forever, but that’s not always meant to be. Find out how to free yourself from the wrong people- forever.
What is Breaking Free?
Breaking free from a relationship is more than just telling someone that you don't want to be their friend or lover anymore. It's getting them physically out of your life and removing all of their energy from your life. It's making sure that they no longer have any access to you whatsoever and they cannot influence you in any way. The longer your relationship is, the more difficult it can be to break free. It can seem impossible if you have children together, If you share a friend's group, or if you're a member of the same family. You can still break free from people.
It's not always easy and getting to the point that you make the decision to do it is even more difficult. People you were not close to don't need to be broken away from. It's the people who we love or who we've had in our lives for a long time. Something big has to happen to make you choose to do this. Maybe they didn't do anything bad to you, but they've changed in such a way that you don't feel safe having them in your life anymore. Maybe you've just grown apart and you're hurting because of the way that things have changed. Maybe they did something that was a deal breaker. Whatever happened, emotionally, you need them gone for good. The only way that's going to happen is if you completely break free from them physically and emotionally. It might take time and patience to make that happen. Learn the fine art of being patient here: Learning the Fine Art of Patience
What is Cord Cutting?
Cord cutting is a type of magical operation that severs your energy from someone else's. It's not a real cord, but for the sake of understanding the concept, let's discuss what cords do. Cords connect things together. Your lamp has a cord that plugs it into the wall so that it can work with electricity. In relationships, we have things that connect us. Some people say there are chords that connect our hearts. Some people say there are cords that bind our energy together. So in this way, we bind ourselves to other people with cords of energy, established by relationships.
Cord cutting breaks those bonds. Sometimes that automatically happens when you've had some kind of a falling out or breakup. Unfortunately, sometimes you remain emotionally attached to people even after you break things off in your relationship. Some people would say the cords of your heart are bound together. Basically, you're just still emotionally connected to someone who you don't want to be. Cord cutting is anything that you do to break this emotional connection. Sometimes all you have to do is forget about someone to cut cords. Learn how here: How Can I Forget Someone? Spells for Moving On
When to Cut Ties
Sometimes you don't have any emotional bonds that you want to break when a relationship is over, but sometimes you do. How do you know when you need to cut emotional ties with someone? When things are completely over, you want to cut ties. When the memories hurt you or the person has hurt you, cutting ties is a good idea. When somebody just won't go away and leave your life when you want them to, it's best to cut ties with them completely. You really don't need a reason or an explanation. When you want to cut ties with somebody, cut those ties.
When It’s Over
When a relationship is completely over and there is no chance of reconciliation, there's no point in maintaining communication or any emotional connection. Ties should be cut. The longer you've been in a relationship with somebody, the more interwoven your lives are together. If you've lived together, you will have to separate residences. If you paid bills together, you will have to separate those. You may not be comfortable staying in the same friends group and if you co-parent, you will have to think about taking care of the kids together but not having an actual relationship. It's a lot of work, but when things are over, the relationship is now useless to you. Emotionally, there is no reason that you should remain tied to them.
When Memories Hurt
Being upset every time you think about someone is a good reason to cut ties. When holding someone inside your heart hurts you more than losing them, emotionally you need to move on. The only way to do that is to cut ties. True love is forever so the love won't stop, but the strong feeling of connection needs to. Moving on from a relationship is difficult enough. Keeping a connection when it no longer exists is pointless and just hurts you. Some people find it easier to stop hurting if they forgive but can that work for you? Find out here: How to Forgive: The Power of Forgiveness
When They Hurt You
Maybe the memories of the relationship don't hurt so much as what the person has said and done. You need to cut yourself off emotionally so that they can't hurt you anymore. Some people say no one has the ability to hurt us unless we let them. Other people say we don't get to choose what hurts us, but we do get to choose who has access to our emotions and therefore the power to affect us. When someone has the power to affect you, you need to take that power away by completely cutting them off. Hurtful people usually never stop hurting others. So take away their power to hurt you.
When They Won’t Go Away
When you've asked nicely and somebody still feels such an attachment to you, they don't always want to leave. When you're sure that you want them to, cutting the emotional cords with them will make it easier for them to leave. Some people say they can't imagine ever giving up a relationship, but you don't, under any circumstances, have to have a relationship with somebody if you don't want to. Cutting somebody off completely when you want them out of your life and they won't go away is very important. You might have to set boundaries even if you haven’t before. Learn how here: How to Set a Relationship Boundary
When You Want To
Cutting cords happens when you decide it happens. You don't have to have a special reason. You are not required to have a relationship with anybody under any circumstances if you don't want to. Period.
A Warning
Before you tell someone you are completely done- are you sure? Have you made sure there were no misunderstandings? Is the relationship worth saving, or has what happened killed the trust? Was there an actual dealbreaker or are you just mad? Reconciliations can happen even after harsh words are said and things are cut off. However, there is always a chance someone won’t accept an apology and resume the relationship once you say things are over. Make sure you are done with the relationship and nothing at all would change your mind before you cut ties completely. Listen to your own intuition when you are deciding. Find out how here: Being Intuitive-Trusting Your Inner Voice
How to Cut People Off
Cutting people off is most easily done on the mundane level doing simple day to day things such as being upfront about having no desire to communicate again. Then there is spellwork you can use if that doesn’t work.
Techniques to Break Free
You should always start on the mundane level when cutting ties with someone. You have to first tell the person you want them out of your life. You can tell them in person- but that doesn’t always work well, especially if they are known for starting fights. You can send them a message if in person doesn’t work. Then, go zero contact- and don’t back down.
Talk it Out
For some people, a face to face talk is the best way to get someone out of their life. Some people want to have a full conversation and give themselves and the other person a chance to say everything they want to. Then, they don't ever want to talk to the person or see them again. Just remember, if you're going to do this, you have to listen as much as you talk. You have to let them say everything they want to say if you want them to listen to everything you have to say. Sometimes it's a mutual decision to end a relationship, and if you both get to say everything that you want to, it gives you both closure.
Send a Message
If you're not comfortable talking with someone because they would get abusive, start a fight, or go out of their way to talk you into staying in the relationship, you can always ask someone else to tell them that you want them out of your life. You don't have to rely on other people though. You can text, do an e-mail, write a letter, or even make a telephone call. Some people cannot bear to be in the presence of someone who they want out of their life, but they want to make sure that the message gets across so they tell them themselves without being in the room with them. Rejecting a relationship hurts but you can cope. Find out how to accept rejection here: Dealing with Being Rejected
Fully Remove Access
Go zero contact with them. Block them on social media, messaging, and your phone. If they see you in public, don’t acknowledge them at all. Don’t open the door if they show up at your house. Being done with someone means moving on with your life as if they are not around- because that is the goal. You don’t ever want them around again. Opening up communication opens your heart and life to them again, and you don’t want that. So never grant any form of access to them again at all.
Spells for Breaking Free
Spells can be used when mundane methods don’t work. You can use a poppet to cut things off with someone. You can also do a full purge of everything you own relating to them. Silence and withholding all energy from them is a powerful form of magic to free yourself from someone too.
Poppet Spell
Make a poppet, or doll representing the person you want gone. Something like inserting a piece of their hair, or writing their name on the poppet will create a magical link between them and the poppet. Anything you do to the poppet will also happen to them. Think of the place where you will never go, and send or place the poppet there. Some people who are really upset will throw the poppet in the trash, but you don’t have to do that. The purpose of this spell is simply to get someone out of your life for good. You can even mail the poppet directly to the very person you want out of your life. Once the poppet is gone, so are they! If you’ve never done magic before, find out how to move energy here: Energetic Magic- Conducting the Lifeforce
Full House Purge
The author’s favorite way to get rid of someone is to get rid of every last thing that reminds you of them. All gifts from them, all photos, all belongings you owned in common have to go. You can go through your computer,cell phone, home, and storage units and purge everything all at once. You may not have time to do everything altogether. Take as long as you need. The sooner you purge every bit of the reminders of them and the last of the things that have their energy on them, the less connected you will feel to them.
Silence
One magical way to cut someone off is to never speak of them again. They won’t disappear off the surface of the planet, but they will disappear from you. This can be difficult. The longer you know someone, the more you share. You will have to be very dedicated to evicting them from your words- and when they cease to be spoken of by you, that means you think of them less. The less you think of them, the sooner they are gone. Magic! Sometimes all the magic you need is using the word “no”. Find out how here: How to Say No: Reclaim Your Power
The ties that bind us to one another go beyond the lives we build together. Emotionally, we are bound. When a relationship is over, those bonds need cut. You can tell someone it’s over, and go zero contact, but sometimes there are leftover feelings and magic helps. Use a poppet to send someone away, or get rid of every scrap of evidence they were in your life. Some people are meant to be in our lives for a short time, and they don’t want to accept it. Cut ties with them, and release their hearts to go forth and love others!
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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Mysticsense and SpiritualBlossom, and she writes for PaganPages.Org emag and Green Egg Magazine.
