Heartbreak when a relationship doesn't work out can make you wonder if you will ever love again, but you can and will. You just need to forget about that failed relationship. Find out some foolproof magic and spellwork to use to forget him or her and move on with your life.
Sometimes you love someone more than life itself, and things end very badly. Wouldn't it be nice if you could just completely forget about someone when that happens so that it's easier to move on with your life.? Magic can help. Join SpiritualBlossom to learn some simple magic to forget your feelings for someone. Find out why things end sometimes even when we love someone and why moving on can be so difficult. Then learn some easy magical techniques and a few simple spells to help you forget someone. Losing a relationship that is important isn’t easy, but with the help of magic, it can stop hurting so much. Read on to get started.
Why Do Things End?
When you love someone, whether they are a friend, family member, or a lover, you might feel like they're going to be in your life forever. Sometimes that doesn't happen though. Sometimes you have a falling out, a terrible fight, or worse, someone isn't who they presented themselves to be when you got together. Maybe nothing bad happened but one or both of you changed, and what you wanted in life became so different you could no longer stay together. Maybe you grew and the other person didn't, and being with them would have been detrimental to you.
Sometimes, we are mistaken when we believe someone is going to be in our life forever. We are brought into one another's lives sometimes for a purpose. Then the relationship ends and we move forward in different directions from one another in life. If you love someone, it's difficult to accept that it's time to let them go. Sometimes things end because they're supposed to, and sometimes it just feels like things end unfairly, but there will come a time when things do end. Sometimes losing a relationship is the best thing that could ever happen to you, but it doesn't always feel that way in the beginning when the loss hurts. Any relationship could end at any time for any reason, and you will be left to pick up the pieces of your shattered heart no matter why it happens. Each of the Zodiac signs have their own signature styles of handling breakups and you can read about that here: Breakups with Each of the Signs
Why is Moving on Difficult?
When a relationship ends, there are two kinds of people. The first is people who behave as if nothing happened and they never cared about the relationship to begin with. Chances are, if you're reading this, you're the second kind of person. The second kind of person is someone who grieves the loss of a relationship with someone who they love, and they have a very difficult time moving on without that relationship. It seems like, emotionally at least, It would be better to be the first kind of person because hurting is difficult. It is far better to be someone who hurts when you lose an important relationship.
It means that your love was pure. It means that you have relationships because people matter to you. It means that you are someone worth having a relationship and sharing life with. It means that when you tell someone you love them, you mean it. It means that you don't have relationships just so you can take advantage of people. It means that you are a loving, caring person and you know that love is the most important thing. For someone like you, moving on is difficult after a relationship ends, because you have included love in your life and now that the relationship is gone, it hurts. Dealbreakers can end relationships too and you can read about them here: What Are Deal Breakers?
You feel the absence of someone who mattered to you, and your life changes without them completely. You're one of those people who never thought or planned for the relationship to end, because when you love someone, you want them to stay in your life. You will go places that remind you of them, and you will do things that remind you of them and the fact that they're not there to enjoy them with you anymore. If you have children together, you have to learn to be a single parent, taking care of your child without a partner. If you were married, you have to divide up the things that you owned, and not only will you give up the relationship, but you will give up things that meant something to you.
When an important relationship is over, you won't just lose a person. You lose experiences that made up a big part of your life. How you feel about life in general might change too. You may have lost feeling secure in relationships. You might lose hope that you will have someone to grow old with. If bad things happened and you were betrayed at the end of the relationship, you're going to have to come to terms with those feelings too. All these things make moving on from a relationship difficult. Heartbreak can come after a relationship is over and the Minor Arcana can provide some wisdom about that here: Major Arcana Readings about Heartbreak
Magic to Forget
Magic works by moving energy in a different direction. You create a change and that creates more changes. The first thing you need to do is accept that the relationship is over, and that might be enough for you to get over things. Self-care is imperative and very magical. You can fake getting over things until you believe that you are. Leaning on the magic of the people who you love for emotional support is extremely important. Instead of missing your ex, you can remember all the bad things that happened and that will make you happy that they're gone. Most importantly, focus on the goals you have in life- the goals they held you back from.
Accept Things
The first thing you need to do to forget your feelings for someone is to accept the fact things did not, will not, and could not work out- or they would have already. Accept that things have to be different. The beginning of any change is accepting. If you are still wondering what could have been, it's going to be difficult to move on. Accept the fact that nothing you could have done would change anything. Accept the fact that you were not lovers who were meant to be forever. Accept that there are many more people who will come into your life and share love with you, and someday someone will spend the rest of their life with you.
Self-Care
Shifting your focus from a relationship that ended to taking care of yourself is powerful magic. When we are in bad relationships, we forget to take care of ourselves, we lose ourselves in the relationship, and we neglect ourselves. When things end, and you want to forget about your feelings that you have for someone, a very powerful form of magic is putting the same love and energy into loving yourself as you did into this now dead relationship. The hours that you spent on someone else can now be devoted to you. The money, effort, and time that you spent on someone who let you go can be put into you.Having a glow up after a breakup is great self-care and you can learn how here: Glow Ups After Breakups - How to Do Them
Faking It
Sometimes, going through the motions of moving on from a relationship while you are still invested will help you to disengage emotionally in the long run. If. You are having a difficult time going out places without the person who you loved, do it anyways. It might be difficult at first, but over time you will discover that you start to enjoy things without them again. Telling people that emotionally you are fine while you aren't, can help you to act fine. If you act like you're fine, you will do things for yourself that you wouldn't do if you flat out told people you weren't ok. Faking it until you make it can be powerful magic to help you move on.
Emotional Support
When you lose an important relationship, that doesn't mean you don't have any relationships at all. You have family, friends, and peers who you can spend time with. Each of them has had some kind of relationship loss and would be happy to listen if you need emotional support. Spend time with them to alleviate loneliness, and to remind you that that dead relationship is not the only one you had. Lean on friends for support anytime. Read about the love of friends here: All About the Love of Friends
Remembering the Bad
When you are trying to forget your feelings for someone, instead of remembering the good times tearfully, allow yourself to get angry by remembering the things that they did wrong. Instead of remembering when you first fell in love, remember their selfish habits that drove you apart. Instead of remembering how great the sex was, remember how they refused to do housework. Instead of remembering a wonderful vacation you took, remember the fact that they made you pay for everything. If you remember the bad things about someone, it will make you glad things ended.
Focus on Goals
What do you want in life? How did your relationship fail to support that? What can a new partner do that your failed lover failed to do? If you start really thinking about what is important in your life and how this person didn’t step up, it will be a step towards forgetting about them. Some goals are easier to meet with a team. Read about the power of group work here: Teamwork: The Power of Strength in Numbers
Spells to Forget
If the influence of simply moving energy to create magic isn't enough, you can do some simple spell work to help you to forget about someone. You can use pre-made oils in your magic to forget about somebody. You can make a poppet representing them to help to get rid of them. You can also do something that not everybody wants to do- sex magic.
Forget Him/Her Oils
You can use Forget Him or Forget Her oils. The simplest way to use them is to simply look at yourself in the mirror every morning and put a little bit on yourself and say, “ I will move on from this heartbreak.” Using these oils has to accompany an attitude shift, though. You have to want to forget your ex. That means every time you catch yourself thinking about them, If you don't redirect your mind, it doesn't matter how much spell work or oil you use, you will remember them. So, consciously decide that you are going to move on from your ex by putting them out of your mind while using this oil every day when you get dressed.
Poppets
Poppets are little dolls that represent someone and are a great way to forget about a lover. Make a poppet that represents your lover. It can be a little stuffed doll, or even just something that isn't a doll that represents them. You can use a photograph of them, a piece of food that reminds you of them, or just a piece of paper with their name written on it. The goal of this spell is to get the poppet as far as possible away from you, which represents moving your ex and their influence as far as possible away from you. Throw the poppet and the trash if your relationship was an extremely bad one, and say something like, “Be gone forever”. You can also mail the poppet to your ex, or even give it to your ex and flat out tell them “ Stay out of my life I never want to see you again.” Read about how to make magic happen in your life here: Using Practical Magic in Everyday Life
Sex Magic
Sex magic isn't for everyone, but it might work for you. One classical sex magic technique is to focus on the intention of your magic while you approach climax, and once it is reached, visualize your magical intention moving in the direction you want it. For example, if you want to forget about your ex, simply imagine what life is like when they are completely out of your mind- and when you climax, put them out of your mind completely. Another form of sex magic when you're trying to forget about someone is to find another sex partner. Sometimes that's all you need to move on.
Other sex magic is doing things that make you feel sexy. That might entail getting a makeover, especially if you had a bad relationship and stopped caring for yourself. It might include going back to the gym after having no time for yourself because you did too much for your ex. It might also include getting dressed up, and going out for a wonderful dinner with friends. It's more difficult to cry over your ex when you feel confident, sexy, loved by friends and satisfied with your life.
Sometimes we lose relationships with people who we love, and it hurts. Magic can help you forget the pain more quickly so you can move on more easily. Redirecting your mind and attitude is the most powerful magic, but you can use spells with oils and sex to make it even easier. Never forget that the most important relationship you have is your relationship with yourself, so focus on doing whatever it takes to feel better while you're moving on. You deserve it.
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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Mysticsense and SpiritualBlossom, and she writes for PaganPages.Org emag and Green Egg Magazine.
