Find out why it can be good to bad to settle for less than what you think is best, when to settle down and be satisfied with what you’ve got, and when to hold out for something better.
“Never settle” is a guiding principle some people live by. They say settling for less than the very best or what they deserve is unacceptable, but some people who never seem to be satisfied or settled down who have this philosophy. Settling for something you’re not satisfied with can be very bad- or it can be good sometimes. Join SpiritualBlossom to find out what it means to settle down, and why it can be a good thing. Find out why settling for less can be bad, and how to know when you need to wait for more before you settle. Finally, find out how to look within yourself to decide if it’s time to settle or wait for more.
What Does It Mean to Settle?
“ You get what you settle for.”- Jenna McCarthy
When you settle, it means you've come to a decision. It means that you decide to stay put and a job, at a place to live, or in a relationship long-term. Some people wait for what they believe to be the perfect situation before they settle in, but some people get tired of waiting and just stop looking. Some people will tell them that they have settled for less than the best. Some people never settle because they feel like there could be something better waiting for them, and then years later say that they ended up alone and they regret it.
Some people will commit to a situation like a job or a living situation, but always keep their eyes and ears open for a good move. Other people will refuse to make a move when they feel like they are committed because they feel like there's no point in doing anything else because they found the best thing for them. Some people are absolutely terrified of committing to a relationship or a situation that they feel is less than the best. They're scared that they will be stuck and that something better will pass them by if they settle too quickly. One Zodiac sign that will probably never settle for less than the best is Capricorn and you can read about that Zodiac sign here: Capricorn Zodiac Traits and Love Compatibility
When Settling Down is Good
“Settling your mind in its natural state entails releasing all grasping, grasping onto the future, and the past, grasping onto cogitations about the present. Letting your awareness rest in its own place, naturally luminous and still.” B. Allen Wallace
Even though some people are afraid to settle down, settling down really can be a good thing. Sometimes it brings you peace or stability. Other times it involves you with people who you belong with, and they become like family to you.
It Brings Peace
Constantly being in search of the next best thing can be very stressful. You have to network with new people. When you settle down and what you feel is the right thing for you, it gives you the peace of mind that you finally made it home. When you settle down in good relationships, it gives you the reassurance that you are loved for life. You won't have to wonder about what the future brings because you will be peacefully settled into your life and your reality. Read about goddesses and gods of peace here; Athena and Other Gods and Goddesses of Peace
It Provides Stability
Stability can be achieved when you make a decision of where you feel like you would say. Some people crave that stability and need to stay put even if everything isn't perfect. Other people wait until they find the perfect situation and then stick around for good. Once you find a situation or a relationship that you believe fulfills all your needs, makes you happy, and is right for you, it can become something permanent in your life. Once you find the right things and the right people and you have them with you for good, the sense of well-being from that emotional security that you experience is priceless.
It Helps You Belong
Settling in to where you belong is one of the most satisfying feelings you will ever experience. Finding your soul mate and spending your life with them will help who you are to make sense. Finding the community where you can connect and be free to completely be yourself can be the most liberating thing you've ever experienced. Some people don't feel complete until they are with the people who they belong with. Settling in somewhere will give you a sense of kinship and a sense of connection with the places you go and the people who you share life with. Find out how to connect to the places and the people where you belong here: Connecting to Where You Belong
When Settling is Bad
“ The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.”- Maureen Dowd
Settling isn't always a good thing though. While it's not bad to make up your mind to stick around, it's just bad when the people who you stick around are the places where you stay aren't good for you. Settling is bad when you're miserable or you've settled in too soon. Worst of all, if you are meant to have something better, settling for less is very bad.
You’re Miserable
If something makes you unhappy, then you have settled into the wrong place. Settling in means that you found the right place to stay put. The only thing you can do if you have settled in somewhere and it turns out to be wrong for you, is to find a way out. Whether it be a relationship, a living situation, friendships, or a job, if it makes you miserable, it's not where you're meant to be. You don't owe it to anybody to stay someplace that makes you unhappy. You owe it to yourself to get out and find something better.
It’s Too Soon
Some people ask for a commitment too quickly. Don't feel pressured to give in when you're not ready. Maybe your relationship is going well. That doesn't mean it always will. Maybe you're being pushed to make a decision about a course of study when you're not ready. Maybe you're being asked to make some kind of a life changing decision, and it's just too soon. Settling on an answer during times like these is unwise. Don't let anybody pressure you into settling in somewhere until you are absolutely ready. Never push a Libra to commit too soon. Learn more about that Zodiac Sign here: Libra Traits and Love Compatibility
You’re Built for More
Sometimes, something is just not enough. You're not being unreasonable or selfish if you don't want to settle for less. If someone wants you to commit to them but they're not the whole package, you don't have to commit. If the job you're being pressured to take doesn't offer all of the incentives you want, then you're not required to take the job. If a living situation doesn't have the amenities, doesn't cost what you want it to, or just isn't pleasant enough, don't settle for it. If you want more, hold out for more. You are worth it.
How To Know Not to Settle
“ Decide what kind of life you actually want, then say no to everything that isn't that.”- Anonymous
So how do you know that it's too early to settle? Luckily there are signs. When there are red flags, look for something else. Anytime you're not treated well, you're in the wrong situation. A very strong sign that you're being pushed to settle for less than what you deserve is if you feel resentful of what you're being asked to take on. You might be giving up too much, and it just isn’t worth it.
There are Red Flags
Red flags are warning signs that something is wrong. If you’re giving more than you're getting back, that's a red flag that you would be settling for less than what you deserve. Another red flag that you would be settling is if you don't love someone who wants you to commit to them. If a situation would unfairly control you, that's a red flag you would be settling for something bad. If the details about the situation are vague yet people want full commitment from you, that's a major red flag. Don't commit to anything that raises serious red flags.
You’re Not Treated Well
You should never settle in someplace where you're not treated well. If your feelings aren't respected or taken into account, don't settle. If people don't tell you the truth, don't settle in with them. Don't go someplace where you are abused. Don't commit yourself to people or situations where there's poor communication. If your boundaries are pushed, you don't have to commit. The number one person who should treat you well is you. Find out what to do to stop self-sabotage here: How to Stop Self Destruction
You Feel Resentful
Deep down, we can usually tell when we would be settling for less than what we believe we deserve. Even if we agree to settle, If we feel that we are settling for less than we deserve, we're upset about it. If you express that you feel that what you're settling for is less than what you deserve or want, and someone tries to shame you, saying you expect too much, you might automatically resent them for that. Don't allow yourself to be stuck in a situation that makes you feel deprived or like you're getting less than you deserve. It's not time to settle if you feel resentful about what you're settling for.
You’re Giving Up Too Much
If you're giving up too much of your time with your children for a new romantic interest, don't settle for that person. If a financial planner charges exorbitant fees, find another one. The things that you include in your life should improve your life, not take away from it. If you have to give up too much for a relationship or a situation, find a better one. You give too much of yourself in toxic relationships. Find out how to get away from a toxic relationship here: Why Relationships That Are Toxic Happen
How to Know It’s Time to Settle
“ Why settle for so little in life when you can have so much just by daring to be different in your thinking.”- Catherine Ponder
Settling down isn't always a bad thing. In your heart, you know that there comes a time in life when you need to settle down. When things feel right, you'll know it's time. When you realize that you've been unrealistic and what you're being called to settle for as good enough, go ahead and settle in. When what you're settling for is an opportunity but not necessarily the final goal, it's ok to settle. When you really want what you're settling for, go right ahead. It's time.
It Feels Right
One of the most wonderful things about being human is that we have powerful instincts. Our instincts tell us when something is right for us. Sometimes you don't know why something is the right thing for you, but that inner voice tells you “Yes go ahead!” Your inner voice will never lead you in the wrong direction, so go ahead and follow it and settle down. Learn the difference between right and wrong here: Do the Right Thing- Knowing the Right Thing to Do
You’ve Been Unrealistic
It's smart to hold out for what you feel is best for you. However, when you realize that you have been unrealistic and you're holding out for something that's not attainable, it makes more sense to settle for what is. We would all love the highest paying job the minute we get our certification, but the starting pay is probably much lower. We have to accept things for the way that they are to function in the world. We have to measure our skills and capabilities and match our expectations with those. If you need to learn more skills to meet a goal, why not brush up on your skills? Improving is always realistic!
This is An Opportunity
Sometimes situations present themselves that were exactly what we hoped they would be and other times we get stepping stones on our road to success. Sometimes an interim management position is available when you're trying to make it to a senior management position. Sometimes a temporary rental situation presents itself while you're saving money for your dream home. Settling for an opportunity that gets you closer to your end point is always a good thing. Would you like to take an opportunity to be reborn from past trauma? Find out how here: All About Rebirthing
You Want This
Anytime what's being offered to you is exactly what you want, that means it's a good thing to settle down with. Maybe people you know tell you it's not good enough. It's not their business. Do what makes you happy. Do what you want. Isn't life all about being happy?
Some people say that they never settle for anything that’s not exactly the way they imagined it would be. Other people settle for less than they want because they feel like they have to. You'll know it's time to settle down when you find what you want, it's a good opportunity, or it just feels right. Never settle for something that you feel resentful about, or that makes you miserable. Settling down in life comes at the right time. Your time. Only you will know when to settle down and when to keep looking for the perfect opportunity.
Are you having doubts about whether it's time to settle or keep looking for something that's better for you? Reach out to one of our psychics today and find out!
About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Mysticsense and SpiritualBlossom, and she writes for The Green Egg Magazine and PaganPages.Org emag.
