Some say revenge is evil and others say it is necessary for justice. Find out how to get revenge on your ex the best way, and not feel bad about it.
Some say revenge is sweet, and other people say getting revenge makes you the worst person on earth. Nobody seems to agree whether revenge is justice and not getting it lets guilty people get by with no consequences or if getting revenge makes you worse than the people who hurt you. So, who is right? Join SpiritualBlossom to find out. Find out exactly what revenge is and the pros and cons of getting revenge. Find out the difference between revenge and forgiveness, and then find out what you really want to know- the very BEST revenge. Some say revenge is poison and others say it’s sweet. Read on to find out if this sweet poison is for you.
What is Revenge?
Revenge means to cause injury or harm in return for perceived harm from someone else. It's thought of as a punishment or a way to get justice because someone did something to you. This grievance that you hold against this person can be real or perceived, but it feels very real. Another word for revenge is retribution and while some people say they leave it to some god or goddess to get revenge, some believe that it's our responsibility to seek our own revenge. Some people say they get revenge to get even, while others say they get revenge to make sure that the person who hurt them doesn't do it again. Revenge typically feels very satisfying.
The degree to which you get revenge depends. Some people want to cause more harm than was caused to them. Others say that's unfair and the punishment has to fit the crime. So, some people would say if their ex cheated on them, to get even, they will date one of their exes’ family members or their best friend. Some people like to destroy their exes' property while others like to destroy their pride, humiliating them in public by telling people secrets about them. Some people get revenge on their ex by making their lives miserable and some people even do that by turning their mutual friends against their ex. It can take a lot of patience to wait for the right moment to exact revenge on your ex, but that is okay. You can learn the fine art of patience here: Learning the Fine Art of Patience
The Pros and Cons of Revenge
The thought of getting revenge can be very satisfying, but it's a controversial topic. Everybody seems to have their own opinion about whether you should get revenge or not. Some people make a case against revenge by saying it makes you an evil person. Other people make a case for revenge, saying it helps to protect you. Find out some other reasons why some people are for or against revenge below.
The Pros of Revenge
On the pro side, when revenge works out the way you want it to, you feel so satisfied that people got what was coming to them. They will know not to mess with you again because you will get revenge on them if they screw up twice. This gives you closure in ways nothing else quite does.
You Feel Satisfied
Knowing that somebody got off with no consequences can be more upsetting than being hurt to begin with. If your ex cheated on you, screwed you over financially, dumped you for a petty reason, or insulted you somehow, you might find the idea of letting them off unbearable. When you get revenge, you will feel that they got a fair punishment for the horrible way they treated you. This can make you feel like the world is a fair place after all, and hurtful people can't get by with it with no consequences. Find out what to do if your lover cheats here: What Happens if You’re in a Cheating Relationship?
They Know Better
If you get back at your ex for screwing you over, they will think twice about doing it again. If they have the guts, that is. Word will get around that you are a woman or man not to be trifled with. People might immediately respect you when they find out that you won't let people screw you over and let them get by with it. Some people will be too afraid to approach you, but if you're OK with revenge, that won't bother you. People will know better to mistreat you if they know there will be consequences.
You Feel Closure
Sometimes your ex is not sorry for the terrible things they did to you. Sometimes the hurt lasts for a long time and letting go of that is impossible. The feeling of satisfaction, of seeing consequences exacted on someone who hurts you can give you enough closure to move past what happened. It can make you feel protected from future harm because people will not to do the same thing your ex did. It can give you the emotional stability to start dating again. It might even give you the strength to stay single. Find out reasons you might be single here: Being Single - Why It Happens
The Cons of Revenge
Some people say you should never, ever get revenge. They say that you stoop to the level of the people who hurt you, and that makes you just as bad as they are. They say that you continue pain and hurt more people. Some people say while you're plotting your revenge, you're holding on to the hurt from the past instead of moving beyond it.
You Stoop
Some people say that to deliberately hurt someone who hurts you makes you just as bad as that person. They also say that two wrongs don't make a right, and if you're just as bad as the person who hurts you, you're putting more bad things out into the world. Some people say that the only way to react to an ex hurting you is to be the bigger person and to find a way to bring beauty into the world. They say we can't change what happened, but to create more awful things in the world is to be part of the problem. One Zodiac sign that doesn't always mind stooping to the level of someone who hurt them is Scorpio, and you can read about them here: Scorpio Traits and Love Compatibility
You Continue the Pain
Some people say when you get revenge, you hurt people. While it is true that you are hurting someone who hurt you, hurting your ex just creates more hurt. Some people point out that if you and your ex have children together, or family members are involved in any way, all of them get dragged into the situation. Any of them could be hurt just as badly as you and your ex have been hurt. Some people say that it is never worth it to get revenge because you're just creating more pain.
You Hold Onto it
Some people insist that you should immediately start healing and try to pick up the pieces of your shattered heart and move on from whatever your ex did to you instead of getting revenge. They say focusing on revenge keeps you connected to the bad situation and it makes it harder to move on. Some people say that we can't change the past, but we can focus on what we want in our future. Some people say if we care less about our ex and what they did, it is easier to move on. Learn the fine art of caring less here: I Couldn’t Care Less - When Caring Too Much Hurts
Great Revenge Stories
If you do get revenge on someone, you won't be the first person. The author's mother got very satisfying revenge on her man. George Lucas of Star Wars got revenge in his own way, and laughed all the way to the bank. A civil rights hero turned astronaut got perhaps the best revenge of all and helped make a better world.
The Diamond Ring
The author’s mother, Marilyn, got the best revenge once. Marilyn and her husband got into an argument and separated. She took her wedding rings to the pawn shop to sell them. She used them as a downpayment on a layaway for a diamond cluster ring she liked. When Marilyn and her husband got back together, she made him go get the ring off layaway- and pay the balance owed on it. She always wore that ring instead of a wedding band.
Star Wars WARS?
Filmmaker George Lucas is perhaps most famous for his Star Wars movies. He gave up $500,000 of the salary he was slated to earn for directing Star Wars in order to buy the rights to merchandising. Some people involved told him the merchandise would amount to little, if any profit. The joke was on them. They swallowed half of a million dollars of his well-deserved income and cast doubt on the validity of selling things for people to buy related to the film. However, over the years, the toys and merchandise sold have earned $32 billion dollars to date. Getting a great paycheck is a good way to get the last laugh. Find out about the healing power of laughter here: Why the Best Medicine is Laughter- How Laughter Heals
Library Payback
In 1959, nine-year-old Ron McNair was told he could not check out library books from Lake City Public Library in Lake City, South Carolina because he was black. The staff called the police to report him because he insisted he be allowed. The police arrived, and demanded to know why the boy couldn’t check out books. He ended up being allowed to get the books. McNair would go on to become a NASA astronaut, over 20 schools are named after him, and even a crater on the moon is named after him. Best of all, his civil rights stand at the age of nine would go down in history. That very library is now called The Dr. Ronald E. McNair Life History Center in his honor.
Revenge vs Forgiveness
Some people say the only way to move forward is to forgive. They say focusing on revenge keeps you connected to pain, and shifts the focus from moving on to living in the past. Johns Hopkins says not forgiving can impact your health. Unresolved anger can impact your cardiac health and stress levels, which can increase the risk of conditions like heart disease, depression, and diabetes. They say letting go of being upset by forgiving lowers these risks and improves your health. Read more here: Forgiveness: Your Health Depends on It | Johns Hopkins Medicine
The Best Revenge
Let's be honest, a lot of people are going to get revenge. What are the best forms of revenge though? You don't necessarily have to stay upset and hurt your ex to get the best revenge. There are various things you can do to live a better life without your ex. You can focus on your health and glow up and completely forget about them. You can fulfill dreams that you couldn't that they held you back from. And you can date better people and marry somebody better than them.
Glow Up
Some people say that after a breakup, you should look and see who glows up. A glow up is a major improvement in life. It's usually noticeable because someone's appearance improves so much that they are positively glowing. When you're in a bad relationship, it can drag you down so badly that it destroys your health as well as your appearance. Start taking such good care of yourself that you look so great your ex would not recognize you. Find out how to glow up here: Glow Ups After Breakups - How to Do Them
Forget Them
People who deliberately hurt you would love it if you stayed miserable. They also love it if you're miserable because they're your ex. Just move on with your life as if they never existed. They have not added anything to improve your life, and if you don't let them, they can't ruin it. When they see you moving on with your life as if they were never a part of it, that is going to hit them in a way that nothing else will. There is no finer revenge than this.
Fulfill Dreams
What kind of things did that awful relationship hold you back from? If they keep you from buying the house of your dreams, go buy it. If they cost so much money you couldn't afford to go back to school but you can now, go back to school. If sex with them was unsatisfying, go have mind-blowingly satisfying sex. Nothing is stopping you, so go for it!
Date or Marry Better
Now that the terrible relationship with your ex is over, it's time to move up. Date people who are better for you than they were and then eventually settle down and marry someone who is better than they are. If your ex was bad enough, that won't take much. You got them out of the way now true love can happen. Is there someone from your past who you wonder if things would have worked out with? Read to find out if love is possible with them here: The One Who Got Away- Could Love Still Happen?
Your ex might have treated you worse than anyone you've ever met, and you want to see them deal with the consequences of what they did. Some people say that getting revenge is detrimental to your health because it stresses you so much that it opens you up to deadly diseases. You can still get revenge and not hurt yourself by fulfilling dreams your ex held you back from, moving on as if they never existed, and having a long-term relationship with someone who's better. Revenge really can be sweet!
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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Mysticsense and SpiritualBlossom, and she writes for PaganPages.Org emag and Green Egg Magazine.
