What to Do if You are in a One-Sided Relationship
February 16, 2024 11 min read

What to Do if You are in a One-Sided Relationship

By Lady Saoirse

TL;DR- Find out how to tackle issues in one sided relationships. Learn if you need to get out of the friend zone, star crossed lovers meaning, what to do about cheating, how to handle being neglected, and what to do if your partner does not love you.

 

“I love him, but he doesn’t act like we are in a relationship!” Is this how you feel right now? When difficulties arise in a relationship and they make you realize that you're in love and your partner isn't, that's called a one-sided relationship. When you discover that you are friend zoned or that you've been cheated on, you might feel lost. If you realize you're being neglected, that your partner doesn't love you, or that you feel like you are star crossed lovers you might not know what to do. That's ok we've got you covered. Join Spiritual Blossom to find out what to do when you're in a one-sided relationship and how you can survive and thrive even if you get your heart broken.

 

What is a One-Sided Relationship?

What to Do if You are in a One-Sided Relationship

One-sided relationships are relationships where one person is invested in the relationship, and the other person isn’t. This can manifest in a lot of different ways. The result of it is always the same and that is that the person who is investing their time and emotional energy into the relationship is going to feel emotionally depleted. If the person you love is not emotionally present in the relationship, but they expect you to be, you may feel alone in the relationship even if they're in the same room as you are.

You might catch yourself making excuses for them. You may tell people that your significant other is too busy to put as much time and effort into the relationship as you do, but then when it becomes obvious that they have plenty of time for all of their friends and family members but not you, it's time to admit that they're not as invested in the relationship you are. You might think that you love them enough that you'll be able to work through any problems, but if they don't love you enough to be present in the relationship, things will go nowhere. They might even have you convinced that you're irrational, unreasonable, or overly sensitive, but the truth is if the relationship isn't working for you because you're not getting as much as you put into it, and you’re not wrong. One Zodiac sign that will be very vocal if something is unacceptable is Libra and you can read about them here: Libra Traits and Love Compatibility (spiritualblossom.com)

Don’t feel bad if you realize you are in a one-sided relationship, because it happens to a lot of people. So what are some of the major signs that you are in a one-sided relationship and what should you do about it? You can feel like the entire universe is keeping you apart no matter how hard you try to come together. There are signs that they don’t love you, and sometimes they will just deliberately ignore you. They might also cheat. Let's explore each of these red flags a little bit more in detail and find some solutions for when you discover that these are going on in your relationship. There are different ways to handle these issues.


I Don’t Think They Love Me

What to Do if You are in a One-Sided Relationship

If you're worried that somebody who you're in a long-term relationship with doesn't love you, unfortunately you might be right. People are very good at showing their love, and it is made obvious by the little things that they do. If what's important to you matters to them, they care about you. If somebody loves you, they're going to make it a priority to spend time with you. If somebody loves you they're going to take up for you in your absence, and they won't let people speak against you. If they love you, they're going to include you in plans for their future because they're going to want you to be a part of their life from now on. If somebody loves you, they will show that through their actions not just by their words.

When you first start dating somebody, obviously you won't be in love with each other or committed immediately. So, you can't expect a new romantic interest to commit their lives to you or behave as if they're in love. If you've been and a committed relationship for a long time and they don't act like they love you, however, that means they don't. You can handle the discovery that a significant other in a long-term relationship does not love you in one of two ways. You can stay together, or you can break up. Nobody knows exactly why we fall in love, and why we don't, but we can't make anybody love us. You are allowed to stay in a relationship with someone who doesn't love you if you want to, just accept the fact you cannot change the way they feel. To read about the spiritual meaning of love see here: What is the Spiritual Meaning of Love? (spiritualblossom.com)


My Partner Ignores or Neglects Me

What to Do if You are in a One-Sided Relationship

The cartoon of the husband reading the newspaper, ignoring every word his wife says, and occasionally saying “ Yes Dear” has become a standing joke. However, if your partner does this on a regular basis, they're ignoring you and that's not good. If they don't answer your calls, they don't call you, they don't text, and they don't answer your texts, that means that they're not interested in communicating with you. Some people who don't care about you but want to keep you around because you benefit them will give you little bits of attention here and there, but not very often. This will put you in a psychological state of feeling that you need to beg for the little bits of attention that you can get. It can make you go out of your way to do everything you can to please them so that they don't hurt your feelings by ignoring you again.

When you see this happening, there are two things that you can do about it, and that is accept it or decide that it is unacceptable. Being ignored in a relationship means that you are more invested in the relationship than the person who is ignoring you. If they wanted to talk to you, they would and if they wanted to see you, they would. If they are not making the time to do those things, then they don't want to be involved in an actual committed long-term relationship with you. They are not a partner. So you have to decide whether you want to keep some form of a connection with this person or move on and find someone who will devote time and energy to you. One zodiac sign that will never ignore you if they care about you is Cancer and you can read about them here: Cancer Zodiac Traits and Love Compatibility (spiritualblossom.com)


I’m With a Cheater

What to Do if You are in a One-Sided Relationship

Cheating happens. When you catch your partner cheating on you, you may experience a multitude of different emotions. At first you might be in denial thinking that they would never do that to you, but as more and more evidence stacks up against your hopes that they're innocent, you will have to finally admit the truth is, they are cheating on you. According to Hack Spirit, up to 60% of marriages include infidelity, and as many as 70% of marriages end when an affair is discovered. What is more disturbing, is they found that a majority of people said they would cheat if they thought they wouldn't get caught doing it. So, if you've been cheated on, don't feel like the biggest fool in town, because it happens to a lot of people. To read more from that article see here: Infidelity Statistics (2023): How Much Cheating is Going On? - Hack Spirit

Is it true that “once a cheater always a cheater”? Not always, but how do you feel about what happened?  Do you feel so betrayed by infidelity that you can never trust your partner again, or do you want to try and move past it and repair what's left of your relationship because you love them so much you want to try again? Remember the above statistic shows that close to 60% of marriages end in divorce due to infidelity, which means that about 40% of marriages don't. If you've caught your significant other cheating, you might decide to sit down with a relationship counselor and try to work things out. Plenty of relationships end because of cheating, but not all of them do. One zodiac sign that values trust is Capricorn and you can read about them here: Capricorn Zodiac Traits and Love Compatibility (spiritualblossom.com)


Are We Star Crossed Lovers?

“From forth the fatal loins of these two foes a pair of star cross’d lovers take their life” is a famous line from William Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet. The term star-crossed lovers refers to two lovers who are kept apart for some reason. At one time it was believed that astrology kept people apart so that's why it's called being star crossed. Are you in love with someone who says that they're in love with you and it seems like the world is conspiring to keep you apart? There's no proof either way that the world does these things, but if you really love somebody and somebody really loves you and both of you put enough effort into your relationship, even if it's a long-distance relationship, there's very little that can keep you apart. So don't let anybody tell you that fate or the cosmos is keeping them from you. Chances are that's not true.

So, what do you do if you love someone, and you're having a hard time getting together with them as a couple? Do you bemoan your tragic fate and give up, or do you keep trying? It's not a bad idea to keep trying. Set aside time on your schedules to be together, booking weeks or months in advance if you have to. Write letters, do emails, texts, and video calls. The older you get, the more friends and family you will include in your life, and sometimes not all of them live in town with you. Keep in touch, visit each other, and find ways to be together as often as possible. Don't let anything come between you. One zodiac sign that will do everything they can to keep you in their life if they love you is Taurus and you can read about them here: Taurus Zodiac Traits and Love Compatibility (spiritualblossom.com)


Am I in the Friend Zone?

What to Do if You are in a One-Sided Relationship

This is simple. Ask the person you are attracted to if you are just friends or lovers. They will answer honestly. Not everybody we are attracted to finds us attractive, and that is okay. We can never have enough friends.  Don’t belittle a good friendship and throw it away if you are upset that your friend won’t date you. Good friends are hard to find, and great to have. So be thankful whenever you are “in the friendzone.”


Do a Self-Love Meditation

No matter how much you read and how much advice you get, sometimes the best advice to follow is your own. When you're hurting, when you're scared, and when it's hard to think, take a step back, quiet your mind and get in touch with your inner voice. Meditation is one of the best ways to do that and doing a self-love meditation when you're worried about your relationships might give you all the answers that you need. Before you begin your self-love meditation, make sure to have pencil and paper and a box of tissues with you so that you can journal any impressions you get and you can wipe away any tears of sadness or joy that may fall.

Sit quietly in a comfortable position at a place that you feel is peaceful and private. Relax your mind and think of all the best things about your relationship and then think about the worst things about your relationship. Set aside whether you're in love or not and think about whether this relationship really enriches you and improves your life, or whether it makes you feel bad and creates a lot of emotional pain. Relationships are supposed to improve our lives and make us happier. They are not supposed to break our hearts and make us unhappy. Are you getting the love that you deserve from this relationship, or do you need to focus more on giving love to yourself by breaking things off? Your inner voice will never lie to you. Then follow the good advice you give and decide what is best for you. To read more about inner psychic voices of clairvoyance see here: What is Clairvoyant Psychic Reading? (spiritualblossom.com)

 

Everybody can choose to stay in a one-sided relationship, and if that is what you ultimately decide to do, it's your right. Just don't expect to change your significant other. People show you how they feel about you by their involvement in the relationship. They show their love by being involved with you, and they show that they're not interested by being absent when they could actually be present if they chose to be. Being ignored, being neglected, being cheated on, or just not being loved are all reasons why you may choose to terminate a relationship if it hurts too bad to stay in it. One-sided relationships aren't for everybody, and you deserve more love than what you're getting if you're involved in one.

 

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About the Author:  Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Spiritual Blossom. She has written for Mysticsense and PaganPagesOrg emag.