Negative thoughts and situations are typically things people run from, but they can be beneficial. Find out all the ways negativity can be helpful and how to use it to create positive thoughts and experiences.
A lot of people talk about negativity as something to be avoided at all costs. They shut out all negative thoughts from their minds and will not discuss negative things, insisting that they focus only on the positive no matter what. However, negative energy and negative thoughts can be transformed into positive things and we will tell you exactly how to do it. Join SpiritualBlossom To find out how to transform even the most negative things and to some of the most positive things. Find out what negativity is and how it can be bad. Find out surprisingly how negativity can be helpful and some tips and techniques to use to transform positives into negatives. Negatives can't be avoided sometimes, but you can use them to your advantage. Read on to find out how.
What is Negativity?
“Negativity is basically laziness. It takes a lot of hard work to remain positive, but positivity always pays off.”- RuPaul
Negativity as anything that is undesirable, unhealthy or upsetting. It ranges from upsetting emotions, to unnecessary stress and often leads us to make decisions that aren't always beneficial. Negativity is the absence of positive things and often makes things more difficult. Other words for negative include contradictory, adverse, unfavorable, and opposing. It is considered to be something that creates problems, something that is toxic, or something that is unnecessary. Negative people are typically pessimistic or constantly expressing dissatisfaction with things. Negative people have a hard time enjoying life, don't like constructive criticism, and may be angry often. Toxic positivity isn’t positive at all, but is a negative thing. Read about toxic positivity and how to beat it here: Accept Feelings and Discard Toxic Positive Beliefs
Positivity on the other hand is exactly the opposite. Positive things, people, and experiences create good outcomes and are seen as desirable. Negative things and people are seen as undesirable. A positive outcome is an outcome that you want. Winning is a positive experience and losing is a negative one. Getting along with people is a positive experience and having disagreements creates a negative experience. Meeting goals is a positive experience and falling short of them is considered a negative one. Positive experiences are things that we look forward to and enjoy. Positive people know how to handle it even if there is a negative experience. They know how to look on the bright side when things don't go perfectly and they know how to find solutions to problems. A negative reaction to problems would just be to give up whereas a positive one would be to look for actual solutions. Positive things support good outcomes, good feelings, and great experiences. That is why most people don't want anything that they consider negative in their lives at all.
How Negativity Can Be Bad
“ Negative thinking definitely attracts negative results.” – Dr. Norman Vincent Peale
Negativity can make everything more difficult. If your mind is focused only on the negative, you can't see positive things in life. Negativity is only seeing problems and not looking for solutions. Therefore the problems will continue unchecked. Another example of that is looking for flaws on your body and seeing nothing but those flaws. If all you are thinking about and looking for is negativity, then that becomes the reality that you see in your life. Negativity can hold you back from seeing the things in life that are good and can keep you from finding solutions to problems.
That can cause problems in your relationships. When you are an angry, negative person, it will be difficult for you to be happy with other people. If you are a constant complainer, being perpetually unhappy with people, it will make people want to give up and leave relationships with you. It can cause fights and it can make people tired of dealing with your negativity. Negativity can make you perpetually displeased with your own life, and ruin the relationship that you have with yourself. It can make you constantly seek perfection in areas where it's not necessary, and lead you to always be dissatisfied. You don't have to suffer from self-image issues. Learn how to build confidence and shatter self-image issues here: Being Confident and Improving Your Self Esteem
How Negativity Can Be Helpful
“Being positive does not mean ignoring the negative. Being positive means overcoming the negative.”- Ralph Marston
Despite the fact that negativity can be so awful, it's not always a bad thing. Negativity can expose problems that you weren't aware of, and that is the beginning of solutions. It can reveal your true feelings about things, and it can move you forward into new experiences.
It Exposes Problems
Negative experiences reveal problems. If you and your significant other fight every time you have to go and see their toxic family members, that reveals how stressed they are and how they need to focus on their own healing instead of appeasing family. If you are uncomfortable on the job, it reveals problems at the job and what needs to be changed. Pain during workouts can reveal injuries that you did not know about, and your doctor can help to remedy these once they're identified. Anytime something is overly difficult, painful, upsetting, or stressful, this negative experience reveals problems and it alerts you to the need for solutions. Say yes to finding solutions when problems arise. Learn all about the magical power of the word yes here: The Magical Things That Happen When You Say Yes
It Reveals Your Feelings
A negative reaction to something reveals your true feelings about it. Maybe you've been going along with these weekly friends outings for months and they always make you miserable. The fact that it's cutting into your sleep time and your friends never let you choose where you go together reveals how bad it makes you feel. Always listen to negative feelings instead of ignoring them, because it's alerting you to the fact that something creates an undesirable situation in your life. You don't deserve that. Negative experiences are just that, negative. It is only natural to be sad, scared, hurt, frustrated, or exhausted from such things.
It Moves Us Forward
Some people say a negative experience is just the universe making us uncomfortable enough to make a change in our lives and that if we always stay comfortable, we will never change anything. A negative job experience can push you to find another job. It can be one that pays more, has better hours, and is a job you always dreamed of having. Discomfort in relationships can push you to break things off, and move into better relationships. Negative experiences alert us that something isn’t working out, isn’t good enough, or that we have grown past an experience. It means it is time to look elsewhere for what we want or need, and take steps to make those things happen. Going forward in life makes sure you stay on your own path. Find out if you can stray from that path here: Am I Still on the Path That’s Right for Me?
How to Transform Negatives into Positives
“ I’ll always use the negativity as more motivation to work even harder and become even stronger.” – Tim Tebow
Some people worry that a negative experience is something that is impossible to turn around, but it isn’t. There are ways you can take negative things and make something positive out of them. You can do the opposite of negative things and use them for inspiration. You can get through negativity with affirmations, and look for opportunities when negative things happen. Negativity can encourage breaking bad habits and provide time and space for growth and learning.
Do the Opposite
When we are growing up, we pay attention to what the adults around us are doing. Sometimes, they show us all the wrong things to do. Substance abuse, toxic relationships, neglecting self-care, or lack of responsibility for their own lives teach us something- how not to behave. Do the opposite when you see a negative example. When you catch yourself wanting to do something negative, do the opposite. When you want to make a hasty decision based on anger, don’t do it. When you want to walk away from a good thing because it is difficult, stay instead.
Everything has an opposite. The opposite of fighting is making peace. The opposite of refusing to help, is making sure to help. The opposite of yelling at someone is speaking kind words. The opposite of self-sabotage is self-care. The opposite of laziness is good work. Whenever a negative opportunity presents itself, ask yourself what the opposite of it is, and do the opposite thing. It will create a positive experience. Sometimes it’s just the difference between right and wrong. Read all about right and wrong here: Do the Right Thing- Knowing the Right Thing to Do
Be Inspired
Let negative things inspire you to do better things and create positive things. A negative relationship with somebody who spoke unkindly to you can make you bitter, but it doesn’t have to. It can inspire you to be kind to other people. When you see suffering, how do you react? Do you accept suffering as the way of the world? You don’t have to. You can let it inspire you to find ways to alleviate suffering. If you go through a time of financial instability, you can let it make you give up. It would be better to let it inspire you to try to work harder, and make an effort to never go through a time like that again. Abuse can make you an abuser, or it can make you an advocate, protecting other abuse victims. Never allow negative experiences to make you a negative person, or somebody who does negative things. Allow negativity to inspire you to make things better, to be better, and to make the world a better place. When you do good, it attracts good. Learn about attraction magic here: More About The Law of Attraction
Use Affirmations
Negative times call for mental clarity and setting intentions. Affirmations are the way to make this happen. On a terrible day at the office, you might feel stressed and helpless. Stop these thoughts and replace them with positive ones. Say something like ‘Things are difficult today, but I have faith in our team to work out difficulties.” If you feel like you will never reach a goal, because it is taking a long time, stop and tell yourself, “ This is tougher than I thought it would be , but I am tougher. I am not giving up. I can do this.” Always tell yourself positive things to get through negative times.
Look for Opportunities
In negativity lies great opportunities. That neighbor who doesn’t get along with anybody may provide an opportunity for all the other neighbors to petition the HOA to make better community guidelines. If you constantly make the same mistake in sports, it is presenting a chance to learn something better. If your significant other is cheating, it is an opportunity to break up with them and find somebody who loves you better than they do. Discovering serious damage and decay in a home you are considering buying gives you the opportunity to not buy it. It might seem like negative things ruin an experience sometimes, but they really give the opportunity to see that the experience isn’t as great as you thought. Realizing you don’t belong somewhere gives you the opportunity to find out where you do. Read all about finding where you belong here: Connecting to Where You Belong
Break Bad Habits
Negative experiences can create bad habits, or they can reveal them. If you pay attention, you will catch yourself reacting to things. Sometimes it's a trauma response. Radical independence is developed by people who weren't taken care of properly when they were growing up. While independence is very important, we all need people to help us. If you catch yourself trying to pretend to be more independent than you are, take it as an opportunity to break that bad habit. If you discover that you get bad results whatever you do something, replace that habit with a habit that gives good results. This is one way to take negative things and turn them into something positive.
Learn and Grow
Every situation that we are in presents us with opportunities to learn about ourselves, learn about the world around us, and to grow as people. The negative experience of being stuck in a dead end job can motivate you to take some classes or find another job where you have the potential to be promoted. Being unable to communicate with your neighbor who doesn't speak your native language can motivate you to learn their language. Maybe things have changed in your neighborhood, and you may have been very happy living there before, but the new changes are making you miserable. Grow beyond the neighborhood and move. Use your magic to transform something negative into something positive by learning and growing. Read about different kinds of magic here: Different Types of Magic
Negative experiences and negative people surround us every day. We have the choice to either let negativity destroy us, or we can turn negative things into something positive. Do the opposite of negative opportunities that present themselves, and take negativity as inspiration to do something better. Use positive affirmations and look for opportunities from negative situations. Break bad habits and learn and grow instead of letting negativity get to you. Taking charge of negative situations and transforming them into positive ones will help you to live your best life yet!
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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Mysticsense and SpiritualBlossom, and she writes for The Green Egg Magazine and PaganPages.Org emag.
