Chemistry can make or break a relationship before it even begins. Find out if you and someone else have chemistry and what that means for relationships.
What is Chemistry?
Relationship chemistry as an immediate, intense attraction to someone. Everything about them just feels right. It's completely unexpected and takes you by surprise. Chemistry is that magnetic pull that you feel towards someone who you meet for the first time, and if there's someone who's meant to be in your life, you will always feel like that when you're around them. It can be romantic chemistry, emotional chemistry, or intellectual chemistry.
Intellectual Chemistry is when someone stimulates you mentally, and you just want to pick their brain. Maybe you want to learn from them, or they are someone who draws the intelligence out of you. Emotional chemistry is something that you feel when someone makes you feel immediately comfortable and that you can trust them with anything. You can feel this way about friends, career colleagues, or anyone in general.
Most people who talk about chemistry talk about romantic and sexual chemistry though. That's an immediate sensual draw to someone who you can tell would make a great significant other, lover, or life partner for you. These are the people who turn us on in more ways than one and who bring out the sensual side of us. They might not be the person who you think is your romantic type, but the magnetic draw that you feel to them will be undeniable. It might be love at first sight or just infatuation, but how can you tell? Read here to find out: How to Tell if You Are in Love or Infatuated
Isn’t That Just Impulse?
Chemistry is considered a delusion or an impulse by some people. That’s probably because they have not experienced it before. Chemistry, when it's true, is undeniable. You might feel an instinctive urge to move toward the person who you felt chemistry with but there is a difference between impulse and instinct. Impulse as a thoughtless, careless thing. Instinct is something that you know is right, but you're not sure why. Impulsive things tend to turn out badly, but if you follow your instincts, you can't go wrong. True chemistry is not in any way impulsive, but it is instinctive.
Signs There’s Chemistry
When you first meet someone, and you intensely like them, you might wonder if they just appeal to you or if there's chemistry. There are 10 surefire signs ranging from feeling drawn to them, to being a lot alike, and being emotionally in tune with them point to chemistry. Read on for 10 signs that you have chemistry with someone.
You Feel an Instant Connection
Have you ever seen someone and immediately known that they were meant to be in your life? Have you ever started talking to someone, and felt like you knew them forever? That's chemistry. It doesn't make sense, does it? How could you instantly be so comfortable with someone who you've never met before? Your instincts are letting you know that this is someone who will be your person. Sometimes everything about someone appeals to you so much the first time you meet them, you never want to let them go. That's the chemistry.
You Feel Drawn to Them
Has anyone ever walked into the room and you just immediately got up and went over to talk to them and didn't know why? Your instincts were letting you know to get up and do it. Something about them appeals to you, but you just can't put your finger on it yet. The best thing to do is to go with it, approach them, and see what your instincts were telling you. You may have felt immediately drawn to someone but nothing happened then. Could love still happen now? Find out here: The One Who Got Away- Could Love Still Happen?
You Can’t Stop Thinking of Them
After that initial meeting , and you felt so drawn to this person, chances are you can't wait to see them again. You replay your conversation in the encounter you had with them over and over in your mind. You wonder if they felt the same way and when you get to see them again. You may catch yourself going back to the place where you met, hoping to run into them again. If you're lucky, you exchanged contact information and all you have to do is text or call. You never know how you're going to feel after the first encounter with someone, but when you can't get them out of your mind, chances are you have chemistry.
You’re Very Similar
If you were uncannily alike, you've probably got chemistry. If you have a lot of the same interests, similar personality traits, matching attitudes, and almost identical beliefs, you've probably got powerful chemistry with each other. Of course, no two people are exactly alike, but if you are so similar that you just make sense with each other, and realize that very soon after meeting them, if not during the first meeting, you've probably got chemistry. It's not every day that you meet someone who is a lot like you, but when you do, don't let them go. You've got chemistry. If you’re just alike he might be a keeper, but is he” Find out here: Is He the One? Find Out if He’s Mr. Right
Differences Don’t Bother You
Speaking of the fact that no two people are exactly alike, minor differences, or even big differences with someone who you have chemistry with probably won't bother you at all. You might have different health lifestyles. You may vote differently from one another. You might practice different religions, and your families may be entirely different. If you have good chemistry, it won't deter you from a relationship. You will find ways to harmoniously reconcile your differences, and you will find out how to balance each other, no matter how different you are. You might even teach one another things that you hadn't known before, because of your differences, and you might help each other grow.
Communication is Easy
If you have chemistry with someone, they will be easy for you to talk to. They might even anticipate what you're thinking or feeling before you say a word. You will be able to discuss difficult topics, maneuver through disagreements easily. and there will be nothing that you can't talk about with them. You will know how to make them feel better when they are upset, and they will know how to talk you into doing things that nobody else can. Communication is just effortless with people who you have chemistry with. Knowing how to be diplomatic makes communication with most people easy. Learn the art of diplomacy here: Mastering the Fine Art of Being Diplomatic
You “Get” Each Other
When you have chemistry with someone, you understand them on a soul level. There might be things about you that most people don't understand, but your loved one with chemistry will. Your deepest, darkest secrets and worst traits that might scare other people won’t bother someone who you have chemistry with, because they understand you fully. You won't have to hide who you are, change to suit them, or be ashamed in any way with someone who you have chemistry with. Hobbies that other people might find weird will be supported by someone who you have chemistry with. Someone who has chemistry knows how to love you and not trigger you in ways that other people would. They will help you to heal your traumas, help you to realize dreams, and hold your hand in ways that nobody else can.
You’re Emotionally in Tune
You will be on the same page emotionally with someone who you have chemistry with. They will never go out of their way to upset you, and they will be able to anticipate your feelings in ways most people can't. You might have the exact same feelings about things and other people don't understand, but you understand each other. You will laugh at a lot of the same things, be sensitive about a lot of the same things, and emotionally connect harmoniously with someone who you have chemistry with. Emotional intelligence can alert you to being in tune with someone. Learn more here: How High is Your Emotional Intellect?
They Make Time Fly
There is never a dull moment when you're spending time with someone who you have chemistry with. You will have more fun with them than most people. When you suffer, they will suffer through things with you and make it easier to deal with. When you're doing something that normally would be boring, they will make it bearable and maybe even fun. You can talk for hours on end, and lose track of time with someone who you have chemistry with. Chances are you probably won't have as much fun with anyone than the people who you have chemistry with.
They Energize You
You will feel invigorated, alive, and more yourself when you're with someone who you have chemistry with. When you're dealing with a tough time, they will know just what to say to give you the strength to tough it out. They will encourage you in ways that nobody else can, and they will give you the motivation to do things you're not looking forward to, because you want to make them proud of you. They will give you the ambition to go further in life, reach for dreams that you thought were impossible, and most of all, they will give you the strength to believe in love. They probably make you laugh too. Find out how laughter heals here: Why the Best Medicine is Laughter- How Laughter Heals
Signs It’s an Illusion
You might think you have chemistry with someone when you first meet them, but as time goes on, you're proven wrong. What are the signs that you're just imagining chemistry with someone? If they don't feel the same way you do, there's no chemistry. If you can't get the relationship off the ground or they don't even spend any time with you at all, you definitely don't have chemistry. If things just don't feel right or your lives can't seem to come together and mesh, there's no chemistry.
They Don’t Feel That Way
You might feel energized by someone the first time you meet them and decide that they are the one for you. You might feel such a strong connection with them, you think you were probably together with them and many past lives. You might think there are sparks and that you're perfectly compatible with one another for life. If they don't feel the same way, you're excited and attracted to them, but there's no actual chemistry. Luckily, you typically find out very early if they don't feel the same way and you can move on.
You Can’t Start a Relationship
When your personalities mesh, you have tons of things in common, and time flies when you're together, you might think it’s chemistry. If you just can't get a relationship off the ground, no matter how hard both of you try, that chemistry you thought was there was just an illusion. We meet people who we like all the time. Just because we like someone doesn't mean that the chemistry is there. You should be able to start a relationship effortlessly if there's really chemistry. Red flags are something else that stalls relationships. Read about relationship red flags here: What to Do About Red Flags in Relationships
They Aren’t Around
Someone might say they feel chemistry with you, but if they don't prioritize spending time with you, who cares? Chemistry is present in relationships, not in daydreams about people who we aren't involved with. Be very careful about spending time or wasting your emotional energy on people who can't be bothered to prioritize you. Life goes on while people are doing other things, and if they're not in your life because of the choices that they make, there's no chemistry.
Things Feel Off
There may be some sign of chemistry present, but if things just don't feel right, it doesn't matter. There's no chemistry. Maybe all your friends thought you were perfect for each other, but the two of you don't think so. Maybe you had a romantic weekend and then things just didn't feel right. Sometimes when we get really excited about a new relationship, we try too hard to make things work when they don't. Listen to yourself. If things feel off, there's no chemistry. Toxic relationships make things feel off too. Learn about toxic relationships here: Why Relationships That Are Toxic Happen
Your Lives Don’t Mesh
You might feel like things should work out, and you have this wonderful personality energy, but you can't build a life together. People say that opposites attract, but not all opposites stick together. Sometimes, your lifestyles, or the things that you both want in life, are far too different to reconcile. If one of you wants to have kids and the other one doesn't, your lives don't mesh. If one of you wants to be a world traveler and the other wants to stay home, your lives don't mesh. If one of you wants to devote yourselves to a life of service, and the other simply cannot stand other people, your lives don't mesh. If your lives don’tt mesh, there is no chemistry.
Chemistry draws us to people the first time we meet. It's not an impulse, but an instinct that someone is your person. Signs that you have chemistry with someone include being drawn to them immediately, effortless communication, and being emotionally in tune with them. Sometimes we're drawn to a stranger with some beautiful qualities, but it's not actually chemistry, and that's obvious when you can't make a relationship happen. Nobody knows why the universe brings our people to us, but chemistry can let you know that they're yours!
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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Mysticsense and SpiritualBlossom, and she writes for PaganPages.Org emag and Green Egg Magazine.
