Cheats are everywhere- and one might even be involved with you. Find out the signs you’re with a cheater and what to do about it.
You’re in love- and a long-term relationship. You’re the envy of your friends, and any day now, you expect them to pop the question- but then the worst thing possible happens- you think they are cheating but what if they aren’t? What if it’s all your imagination? Join SpiritualBlosson to find out. Learn what cheating is and signs you are being cheated on. See how to find out it’s not cheating after all- and the most difficult part. What can you do if you discover it really is cheating? Cheats are everywhere- but is your partner one? Read on to find out.
What is Cheating?
Cheating is engaging in some type of romantic behavior with someone other than the person who you're in a relationship with. There are different levels of cheating, and some people define cheating in different ways than others. Some people define cheating as full-blown sex over a period of months or years. Other people define it as a one-night stand. Some people define flirting with someone who may or may not be interested with the intent to have sex, and still other people define cheating as simply fantasizing about someone else.
An article by pleazeme showed startling statistics about cheating. About a third of affairs arise in the workplace, and people who have cheated three times are likely to do it again- no surprise there. More than half of people- 67% of men and 53% of women who confessed to cheating on a partner said they cheated more than once. Although 90% of Americans said cheating is wrong, between 30% and 40% of them admitted to doing it. If there is cheating in a relationship, you are more likely to get through it and stay together if you have support or couple’s therapy. Read more from pleazeme here: Infidelity Statistics 2025 - Age, Gender & Cheating Charts
Signs They Are Cheating
If the statistics tell us anything, they tell us that human beings cheat sometimes. It's possible that if you're reading this article, you're concerned that your partner is cheating on you, but what are the signs to look for? From a halt in sex to a sudden improvement in their appearance, there are little signs that your partner is possibly cheating.
They Stopped Sex
A classic sign that you're being cheated on is when your partner won't have sex with you anymore. That's because they're getting it from someone else. Sex with someone else is a very common form of infidelity. Most of us have multiple sex partners in our lives, but a lot of people prefer to have a monogamous relationship instead of an open relationship where partners have sex with different people. Even if you're in an open relationship, your partner might have sex with someone else without telling you. A cheating partner can break your heart but cheating isn’t the only heart-breaking thing that could happen. Read about signs you’re headed for heartbreak here: Signs You’re About to be Broken Hearted
They Are Emotionally Absent
Someone who is cheating on you might pull away from you emotionally. They might talk to you less often, or not share their feelings about things with you. Losing the emotional support that you had from your partner can feel so terrible, that you might not care whether they're cheating on you or not. You may feel like they have left the relationship and. Emotional absence can feel like its own form of cheating. However, when people are getting the emotional support that they want from someone else, they might not try to get it from you, and not give it to you either.
They Glowed Up
If your partner suddenly improves their appearance drastically, they might be doing it to try and attract someone, or keep someone who they have attracted. Older people who are interested in younger people might dye their hair to try to look younger. Someone who has gained weight might start working to lose it. They might buy a whole new wardrobe, make up, get a new haircut, or start working out. If you break up with your cheater, you can glow up too. Find out how here: Glow Ups After Breakups - How to Do Them
They Guard Their Devices
If your significant other hides their social media or phone from you, there's a chance that they are communicating with someone else behind your back. They might be sending texts to a new love interest, or even sending and receiving sultry photos. If they're texting on their phone a lot more often and don't want you to see what they're texting, they might be flirting with someone behind your back. They might be setting up times to meet a prospective lover, or someone who they're cheating on you with. If they are looking at other people's profiles and liking a lot of their photos, they might be shopping around for someone to cheat with. If they don't want you in the room when they're making phone calls, they may be calling the person who they're cheating with.
Unexplained Spending
Cheaters spend money on the people who they're cheating with. They might wine and dine the person they're cheating with at expensive restaurants. They might buy gifts or lingerie. They might spend money on hotels to meet up for sex. They might spend money to travel to meet up with someone who they met that they would like to cheat with. They won't want you to know what the extra money they are spending is for. Leos LOVE if you spend money on them and they love spending money on the people they love. Read more about that Zodiac sign here: Leo Traits and Love Compatibility
Routine Changes
If their steady routine suddenly changes, they may have rearranged their schedule with someone who they're cheating with. If they're waking up earlier in the morning, and leaving earlier, they might be meeting someone to cheat with. If they stay out later at night, they might be cheating with someone in the evening. Asking them where they are and what they're doing might result in excuses. They might suddenly say that they have to work late or that they're going to the gym in the mornings before work. If the regular times that you used to get together and date suddenly aren't available, they may be spending that time with someone who they're cheating on you with.
They Are Suddenly “Busy”
If they are suddenly too busy to see you because they have all kinds of other things going on, guess what? Those other things might entail cheating. There may have been a time when you were first together that your partner acted like they couldn't stand to be away from you for a minute. When they suddenly act like they have no time for you at all, they might be spending that time with someone else. Virgo is one of the busiest Zodiac signs. Read more about them here: Virgo Traits and Love Compatibility
They Won’t Commit
Someone who doesn't want to be in a long term-relationship with you won't commit to you. If they had talked about it before but all of a sudden they don't want to, it could be because they found someone else and they're cheating on you. Don't try to force someone to commit who's fighting it. They're doing you a favor by letting you know that they don't want to. Don't think that just because one person won't commit to you that nobody will. Someone who you thought you were going to be in a long-term relationship with, who suddenly shows no interest in that is being very honest about how they feel. Believe them when they tell you that they don't want to commit to you. They might decide they want someone else instead, so let them go.
Their Friends Act Weird
One sign that your partner is cheating on you is that their friends act uncomfortable around you. It's really not their responsibility to come clean with you about what's happening, but if they know, they might feel terrible about staying quiet. They might know that your partner is going to dump you for their new flame, and they don't want to be involved. They might think it's not right what your partner is doing, but again, that's their friend, and once you break up they will probably never see you again. The more uncomfortable your partner's friends act around you, the more suspicious you're going to get. Friends love you like nobody else will. Read about the love of friends here: All About the Love of Friends
They Don’t Like You as Much
There was probably a time when you and your partner first got together that they acted like everything you did was perfect. They acted like you were a dream come true for them and they couldn't imagine being away from you for a moment. If they suddenly start acting like they don't like you anymore, they might be cheating. They are comparing you to this new person who they're cheating with, and telling themselves how much better they think their cheat mate is than you. Things that they previously supposedly loved about you might become things they suddenly hate.
If previously, they valued your outspokenness, now they will find you difficult and argumentative. If previously they loved eating out with you, now they will say they don't like spending so much money on food. If previously they loved spending time with you fixing up the house you bought together, suddenly they will say it's too much work. If someone starts complaining about all of the things about you that previously they loved, be very suspicious, because something's wrong. There might be cheating.
What if It’s Not Cheating?
Some people say if you think your partner is cheating, then they probably are. However, what if they're not? Are there any other things that could be going on when these so-called telltale signs of cheating are happening? Stranger things have happened. If your lover is showing all the signs of a cheater- but they are not actually cheating, it means there is still some sort of problem, and it’s not good. They may have decided that they don't want to be in a relationship, but they also don't want to lose the perks of being with you. They might be someone who is self-centered, and you just had not realized it yet. They might be someone who is happy in a relationship with you, but all they know how to do is take and not give.
They might be working overtime and they're being truthful about that. That can exhaust anyone and make them pull back, because there's just nothing left of them after work. Thus, sex might point to a medical problem or exhaustion. If they're acting like they don't like you much anymore, they may realize that they're not actually in love. Investigate and take care of whatever problem there is- even if it’s not cheating. Maybe you’re not being cheated on, just breadcrumbed. Find out here: What is Breadcrumbing? Know the Signs
What To Do About a Cheater
If you find out you're being cheated on, what should you do about it? Your loved one might swear that they'll never do it again, and you might decide that you want to forgive them and just move on. You might decide that you can never trust them again and what they did is unforgivable. No matter what happened, there's only two things you can do. Either stay and work things out, or leave and move on without them.
Stay
If you stay, you might have a problem emotionally letting go of what happened. That is understandable, because you will wonder why they felt like you weren't enough for them. You will wonder why they felt like it was worth it to jeopardize your relationship with someone else. You might wonder if they ever loved you, and you might question if they're worth loving. However, plenty of couples work things out after infidelity, and as the statistics above showed, if you have proper support and or couples counseling, it's easier for you to stay together.
Leave
Some people decide that cheating completely destroys the trust and they do not want anything to do with the relationship, or the cheater ever again. Breaking off the relationship is the only thing they can think of to do. If you decide to break things off with a cheater, don't think that it's your fault that you were cheated on. People cheat because they want to and because somebody will cheat with them. Your cheater may pretend to immediately be in a committed relationship with someone else. That they can brag that they never needed you to begin with. Even if they didn't, you might feel so much better without them in your life that you don't care what they do. If cheating ends the relationship, you can pick up the pieces of your heart and move on. Find out how here: How Can I Forget Someone? Spells for Moving On
Cheating happens. You might be someone who believes it could never happen to you, or that you and your partner are so in love that your partner would never cheat. When the day comes that your partner starts acting like they don't like you anymore, they're spending money they previously hadn't spent, and they don't want you to be around when they're talking on the phone or texting, those are signs they might be cheating. If your partner is cheating, you have a decision to make. Stay or leave. Nobody can make the decision but you whether to forgive them or to move on to other loves. Even if they cheat- love is out there for you. I promise
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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Mysticsense and SpiritualBlossom, and she writes for PaganPages.Org emag and Green Egg Magazine.
