It seems like happy couples are everywhere, so why can’t you find someone to love? Find out reasons you may still be single and why it is possible to be happy when you’re single.
When you’re single and you don’t want to be , it can feel like everybody else has a lover but you. That can make you worry that you’re unattractive, or there is something terribly wrong with you and will miss out on all the wonderful things people who aren’t single get to participate in. You might be tired of being single and think you will never be happy as long as you are. That’s just not true. Join SpiritualBlossom to find out why. Find out what being single means- and what it doesn’t mean. Learn some of the signs you’re tired of being single, if being in a relationship is always better, and reasons you might still be single. Read on to find out why being single happens, and why that’s not necessarily a bad thing.
What is Being Single?
When you're single, it means that you don't have a boyfriend, girlfriend, romantic partner, or spouse. Being single means a lot of different things. It doesn't necessarily mean everything that some people think it does, though. To some people it's the end of the world and to other people it's freedom and independence.
What it Means
When you’re single, it just means you don’t have a romantic partner. That is literally the only thing that it has ever meant. Some people put too much meaning into it, and quite often that's the people who are either not single and like to make fun of people who are, or people who are single and wish they weren't. Everybody has different reasons for being single, and some people are single by choice. Some people are single because they came out of a bad relationship and they are enjoying the peace of being alone. Other people are single because they haven't met anybody who makes them want to settle down in a relationship. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being single. Some people are even happier when they are single. Read more about that here: Happy Singles - Is Being Single Better?
What it Doesn’t Mean
If you're in love with someone who doesn't love you, or you’re heartbroken over a breakup, or just feel like being single makes you lonesome, you might assume that being single means negative things. You might think you're attractive, nobody loves you, or that you will die alone, but those things simply aren't true.
You’re Unattractive
They say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Each of us finds different things attractive and other things unattractive. Just because you're single doesn't mean there's nothing attractive about you. You don't need a romantic partner to make you feel attractive or sexy. Supermodel Linda Evangelista has been considered one of the most beautiful women in the world, and once expressed she was not interested in a romantic relationship. She said “I don’t want to sleep with anybody anymore. I don’t want to hear somebody breathing. If someone as attractive as her can be single, so can other attractive people.
Nobody Loves You
One of the traps that we fall into is believing that if we don't have a romantic partner that nobody loves us. Think of all the people who you have in your life. Think of your family who you could not do without. Think of your friends, who are the family who you choose. Think of your pets and children who can't imagine being without you. If that's not love, then what is? Romantic love isn't the only type of love there is. Read about the love we have with friends here: All About the Love of Friends
You Will Die Alone
A lot of people who are single are terrified that they will die alone. When the moment of death comes, you might be alone in the room, whether you're in a romantic relationship or not. You might also die surrounded by friends, family, or your children. Ensuring that there is someone to hold your hand at the moment of death is not a reason to be in a romantic relationship. According to the CDC, statistically, you are most likely to die in a hospital and you will be surrounded by caretakers- single or not. Read more from the CDC here: QuickStats: Percentage of Deaths, by Place of Death — National Vital Statistics System, United States, 2000–2018 | MMWR
Can You Be Happy Single?
It's possible to be happy while you are single even if your heart is broken. Happiness comes from more than one place though, not just romance. Happiness comes from career success, and hobbies that you enjoy more than a meaningful career. Happiness comes from spending time with your best friends. Happiness comes from self-improvement and being your best self. Happiness comes from learning new things that help you to grow. Happiness comes from getting out into the world and enjoying all the beautiful things that life has to offer.
Happiness comes from the peace that you get when bad relationships are out of your life. Some people will stay in a bad romantic relationship because they're so afraid of being single. Other people will tell you that it's better to be alone than to be alone while in a loveless relationship. Happiness comes from having a peaceful existence where you're not fighting with somebody who doesn't care about your feelings all the time. Happiness comes from living life on your own terms and not catering to a demanding romantic partner who uses you. Happiness can come from romantic relationships, but it only comes from the right relationships. Find out if a romantic interest is showing signs they love you here: How Do I Know if He Loves Me?
Signs You’re Tired of Being Single
You might not realize you're tired of being single, but there are a few signs that you might be. If you're afraid it's too late for you to have a relationship, you're probably tired of being single. If you're envious of couples and you lower your standards, chances are you're tired of being single. If you're acting desperate around prospective partners and you're defensive about being single, you're definitely tired of being single.
You Fear It’s Too Late
No matter what age you are, if you're single, you might be afraid it's too late for you to have a relationship. If you're in your late 20s or early 30s, don't tell yourself that you're not so young, because you are. If you're in your 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, or even 80s, or 90’s it's still never too late for love. Even if you're in your 40s and you don't have kids yet, you can still have kids with a partner. Brides online reports that one in ten people get married for the first time between the ages of 40 and 59. So never fear it’s too late, because it isn’t. Read more about marriage ages from Brides here: Why People Are Getting Married Later In Life
You’re Envious of Couples
If you think couples have something great that you don’t, you envy them, and of course you want what you think they have. If you see them holding hands and it suddenly makes you feel alone, you’re tired of being single. If you see them dressing up for dates and you wish you had a date to dress up for, you’re tired of being single. If you envy people who show up for events with a date, but you have no date, you’re tired of being single. The funny thing is- not all of the people who have a date or significant other are happy although they may pretend that everything is perfect in public. Some of them have horrible relationship problems you’re not stuck dealing with.
You Lower Your Standards
If you find yourself accepting dates with people who you would never have given the time of day before, it’s clear you don’t want to be single. If you accept a second date with someone you could not stand on the first date, you are sick of being single. If you even bother to talk to people who you find unattractive, you are lowering your standards and that can only happen because you do not want to be single anymore. You are telling yourself that any date or romantic partner is better than none at all. One Zodiac sign who is highly unlikely to do a thing like that is Virgo and you can read about them here: Virgo Traits and Love Compatibility
You Act Desperate
If you believe you NEED a romantic partner, it can make you act desperate. When you act desperate about being in a relationship you might flirt with anybody who allows you to or go out with anybody available. You might accept every date or worse, accept any treatment. You might also feel so desperate to be in a relationship that you would try to change who you are to suit somebody else. You might change your appearance, change your behavior, or do things that you would never do just to please someone so that you don't feel single.
You’re Defensive
If you're defensive about the fact that you're single, you're probably tired of being single. Some family members are inappropriate and try to push single younger family members into meaningless relationships just so they won't be single. If someone does this to you and you get angry about it instead of realizing that they have some kind of an attitude problem, you're probably tired of being single and you don't want to admit it. If no one is allowed to mention the fact that you're single because it upsets you, then you're probably tired of being single. If you feel like being called single as an insult or an attack on your character, you're probably tired of being single. Caring too much about what people say isn’t good and you can find out why here: I Couldn’t Care Less - When Caring Too Much Hurts
Why You’re Still Single
It’s you. You are the reason you’re single. Most people could have SOME form of relationship but you have chosen not to. You may have standards you won’t compromise or are waiting for true love. You might be healing, and understand you need time. Maybe nobody who is available appeals to you.
You Have Standards
Do you know anybody that's in a relationship with somebody who isn't their type and who they really don't like? That means they don't have standards. You could be single because you don't know anyone who is your type or you have strong feelings for. There is nothing wrong with being single, especially if it means staying out of a meaningless relationship. Relationships are supposed to make our lives better and the people who we are in relationships with are supposed to do that. They are also supposed to appeal to us. If nobody appeals to you or makes your life better, and you're single, good for you.
You Are Waiting for Love
You might be single because you haven't fallen in love yet. Nobody knows exactly how love happens, or why we fall in love. Some people wait for love to be in a relationship. Not everybody needs to date someone if they're not in love with them. Dating and relationships are supposed to be meaningful and if you don't love someone, it's okay to be single. Find out if you're infatuated with someone or if you're actually in love with them here: How to Tell if You Are in Love or Infatuated
You Are Healing
If you have been through a terrible relationship or any type of traumatic experience, you might choose to stay single while you're healing. Some people feel that starting a new relationship during a time of healing is a bad idea. You may decide to focus on yourself and your personal needs instead of devoting your time and energy on someone else. Some people prefer to heal in a new relationship, but not everybody is that way. You can always lean on friends and family while you're healing. If you need to heal as a single person, then heal as a single person.
Nobody is Appealing
You might be single because you're not attracted to anybody. That doesn't mean that there aren't attractive people out in the world somewhere. It just means that you don't know anyone who you find attractive. Some people won't date unless they're attracted to the person. Some people date just for the sake of dating, but if that's not your cup of tea, you don't have to date anybody. You will just have to be patient and wait for someone you are attracted to comes into your life. Learn all about being patient here: Learning the Fine Art of Patience
Some people do everything they can to avoid being single and yet find themselves single against their will. It's not because they're unattractive or that it's too late for them to be loved. It could be because they're not attracted to anyone, or they're waiting for love and they've not fallen in love yet. We're not single because we're doomed to be alone. We're single because the right relationship hasn't presented itself.
Never forget that you're not alone, even if you're single. You have friends and family who love you. If you're a parent, you have your children, and if you're a pet parent, you're blessed with furry, feathered, or finned and scaled children. Love is everywhere, not just in romantic relationships. Never give up on love if you want to be in a romantic relationship. Just know that love is out there waiting for you, and when the time is right, you and the person that you're meant to be with will come together.
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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Mysticsense and SpiritualBlossom, and she writes for PaganPages.Org emag and Green Egg Magazine.
