Glowing up should be the first thing you do after a nasty breakup. Find out the benefits of glowing up after breaking up, and how to do your own post breakup glow up.
Have you ever noticed how down and dismal some people feel at the end of their relationships and then after a breakup? Some people are heartbroken, and fear they may never love again. Then, there are people who were in a horrible relationship and they suddenly start to thrive after breaking up. They begin to glow, fulfill dreams they put on hold, and parts of them blossom that you never knew existed. They glowed up, and so can you. Join SpiritulBlossom to learn about post breakup glow ups. Find out what they are, why people do them, and what a post breakup glow up isn’t. Best of all, find out the benefits of doing them and how to do one yourself. The difference between glowing up and giving up is committing to yourself or to a dead relationship, so which will it be? If you are ready to glow up read on!
What’s a Glow Up?
A glow up is a dramatic transformation for the better. When somebody says that someone had a major glow up, they typically refer to the way that somebody looks. Before their glow up, something looked wrong. Maybe they didn't carry themselves with confidence before, and after their glow up they started to do that. Maybe they didn't take care of their health, and after their glow up there was some marked change in how much better they started to feel. Maybe they had stopped tending to their appearance and after their glow up they looked fantastic.
Glow ups aren't just physical changes, but internal changes also. Someone can become mature and glow up. Someone can glow up by learning to regulate their emotions better. They might become happier. They might stop caring about other people's opinions and stop worrying about things that they have no control over when they glow up. They might improve their performance on the job and become a top employee after struggling at the bottom. Glowing up means that you have made some kind of major improvement to yourself and you are absolutely glowing. You can glow up by being happy even in dark times. Find out how here: Being Happy, Even in Dark Times
What a Glow Up Isn’t
Some people think that when somebody glows up they become an entirely different person. They actually become a better version of themselves. Glowing up won't fix all your problems, but it will help you to have the confidence to tackle them better. Glowing up doesn't make you perfect, it just means that you improve some imperfections and accept other ones. It also doesn't mean that you will have everything you want. It just gives you the courage to go after those things. A glow up also doesn't mean that you can have whoever you want, and it doesn't mean that you're going to get your ex back. A glow up just means that you improve noticeably and every aspect of your life is better because of it.
Why We Glow Up
We glow up when we find a way to improve ourselves. We learn new things all the time and when we learn about a way to better ourselves and we do it, that's when the glow up happens. It doesn't matter what aspect of your life needs to be improved. When we decide that we need to change for the better and we make a change that's so profound that it transforms us dramatically, that's when we glow up. After we come through bad times and start experiencing better things in life, it makes us glow up. When we take a look at ourselves and we see something that we don't like that needs changed, that's when we make sure that we make a glow up happen. The more adaptable we are, the easier it is for us to glow up. Learn how to become adaptable here: Mastering the Fine Art of Being Flexible
The Benefits of After Breakup Glow Ups
After a breakup, we may feel lower than we have ever felt before. If you were truly in love with somebody and the relationship is over, you might be afraid that you can never love again. You might feel completely alone. If you put a lot of time and energy into your relationship with the other person, you might feel empty. Glow ups are beneficial for healing and in helping you to gain independence after a breakup. They help you to focus on self-love and on creating your own future.
Healing
Breakups hurt. Even if you are the one that initiated the breakup and you knew that it needed to happen, there is still some heartbreak and disappointment that things did not work out. Focusing on improving yourself and your life can heal the pain from a breakup. If you were neglected by your ex, shower yourself with attention and give yourself the love and care that they withheld from you. Do all the things they didn't want you to do, and open yourself up to love, friendship, and romance from people that your ex held you back from getting to know. Just because a glow up helps with healing doesn't mean dating is going to be easy after a breakup. Find out why dating can be difficult and what to do about it here: Why is it So Difficult to Date People?
Gaining Independence
When you're in a relationship, you typically do most everything with the person you're involved with. If there's something you want to go do and they don't, they will hold you back from it. If there is a direction that you want to move in your life that they disapprove of, you won't go there. If there are experiences that you want to have that they disagree with, you won't have those experiences. The longer you are with someone and the less you do on your own, the less confidence you will have that you can do things on your own. Oh, but you can. Enjoy the independence that you gain after a breakup and how it makes your glow up thrive.
Focusing on Self-Love
Does focusing on self-love create a glow up, or does glowing up make you love yourself more? It's hard to say what happens first, but they both nurture one another. Even when you're not single, the number one most important relationship you will have is the one with yourself. If you don't love yourself, you need to learn to. Glowing up entails improving yourself. You might dislike something about yourself, but loving yourself enough to change that is what you do when you start to glow up. When you love yourself more, you do better things for yourself, and you become a better person. Learn how to practice self-love here: Practicing Self Love
Making Your Future
Some people feel like their whole life is over if they lose one relationship, but it isn't. Even if you lost a relationship that you've had for a long time, that relationship isn't your whole life. You have a future even though the person who you thought was going to share your future with you was gone. In some relationships, two people become so interdependent upon one another, the thought of moving forward without them seems impossible. You may have spent a lot of time doing things for your ex and you therefore didn't have time to focus on doing things for yourself. You might have stopped working out to spend extra time with them. You might have given up your dream of becoming a nurse so that you could stay home and support their career.
Now that your ex is out of the picture, you can think about the future that you want that doesn't include them. You can also think about what kind of a relationship that you want now that they're gone. If they emotionally neglected you, you can open yourself to people who are more attentive. You can take those nursing classes that you weren't able to take. You can start working out and improve your health again. Whatever it is that you set aside to build a future with them, you can start once more. What kind of dreams did you have before you met them that you'd like to fulfill? Learn how to make your dreams come true here: How to Make All Your Dreams Come True
How to Do a Post Breakup Glow Up
Now that we know what a glow up is and some of the wonderful benefits of having one, how do you have a glow up after a nasty breakup? Just take a few simple steps and your glow up will begin. Start by walking away from the past and focusing on your own health. Pursue your dreams, and have fun. Think of what kind of person you want in your life romantically, and ask the universe for all of the things that you want. Then graciously accept the blessings that the universe gives you.
Leave the Past Behind
When you first go through a breakup, you might be turning it over and over in your mind. You might wonder what you could have said or done differently to avoid the breakup. The past can't be changed. There is only one way to move in life and that way is forward. You need to focus on moving forward with your life without your ex. It might seem impossible at first. Take it one day at a time and if one day seems too difficult take it one moment at a time. You have a bright future with a lot of wonderful people to look forward to. It is unfortunate for your ex that they won't be joining you, but don;t worry about them. Focus on your future instead.
Focus on Health
Your mental, emotional, and physical health can take a major hit especially if you were in a bad relationship. What unhealthy coping mechanisms have you developed from this relationship that is now thankfully over? What unhealthy eating habits have you developed? Did you stop exercising because your ex was so demanding that you didn't have time? Did you tell yourself ridiculous things like your ex would be the only one who would love you? All of these unhealthy habits need to go away. Shower your mind, body, and spirit with the healthy things that it needs to heal from the breakup and whatever bad things happened in the relationship. Healing from past traumas is one way to focus on your health. Read more about that here: Healing Form Past Traumas
Pursue Dreams
Are there any dreams that you've been putting on hold for the sake of your now dead relationship? Pursue those dreams. Are there any dreams that you thought you would pursue with your ex? Pursue those dreams without them. Maybe you planned to start a family with your ex. Start that family with somebody else. Focus on all of the wonderful things in life that you wanted to do after a breakup and when those dreams start falling into place, you will glow.
Have Fun
What kind of things do you like doing? Go do them. It might feel painful at first to go do things without your ex, but you need to do those things anyways. Don't be afraid to go to the movies alone. Don't be afraid of people looking at you because you're single. Just have fun and enjoy life. After breakups, some people discover that they have more fun being single. Find out if being single is best for you here: Happy Singles - Is Being Single Better?
Think of Who you Want
After a breakup, don't just think of things you want. Think of the kind of person you want in your life romantically. Do you want more passionate love making? Do you want someone who will spend more time with you? Do you want someone who shares common interests with you? Do you want a long term relationship, or do you just want casual relationships? Do you want someone who is more of a soulmate? What qualities are you looking for, a sense of humor, seriousness, a highly educated individual, someone who challenges you? Be specific so that you know what your next relationship should entail.
Ask of the Universe
Think of what you want in your life and ask the universe for it. Reach out to the people who you know that can tell you how to get those things. Ask for help from people who have resources. Open your heart and say a prayer to your higher power to guide you to these things that you want in your life. You can also ask for prosperity. Find out how to attract prosperity here: The Guide to Prosperities: How to Attract Fortune
Accept Blessings
There is an unending bounty of blessings in the world that everybody can have. Open yourself to accepting those things. It may seem difficult after you break up to believe that there are blessings for you, but there are. Each time that a blessing presents itself to you, graciously accept it and this will help you to glow.
Breakups can be devastating. The person we loved most is gone forever, and we may have no idea how to cope. Cope with a breakup by glowing up. Glow ups are beneficial because they help us to heal, to focus on self love, and to build our future. Easy steps to glowing up after a breakup are leaving the past behind, having fun, and accepting the blessings given to you. Instead of letting a breakup tear you down, glow up into the most magnificent form of yourself you ever imagined possible. Start now!
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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Mysticsense and SpiritualBlossom, and she writes for PaganPages.Org emag.
