Caring is important, but what does it mean to care too much? Find out how to balance caring less when you have cared too much without being an uncaring person.
From birth, most of us are taught the importance of being a caring individual. We are taught to ask permission, say please and thank you, and extend all the courtesies we can to other people. We are rarely taught to balance how much we care with not caring and how helpful that is for our mental health. Join us at SpiritualBlossom to find out about that today. Find out the difference between truly caring and being an uncaring person and what it means to care too much. Find out how that hurts, and how to care less without being uncaring. Our caring people deserve as much emotional support as the people they care about- so read on to find out how to give that emotional support to yourself as a caring person.
What Does It Mean to Care?
Caring means something matters to you. It means that people’s feelings, needs, and things that happen are taken to account before you make decisions. It means that you think before you speak, act, and you reflect on your decisions and actions afterwards. It means that you will make changes based on what you feel is best, and if you feel that something is bad, you won't do it. When you care, you are considerate, compassionate, and you try to be fair. You also think about more than your opinions and desires, and try to accommodate everyone.
When you are caring, you try to be supportive, and try to protect the people that you care about. You will give emotional support as well as physical support and relationships will be very important to you. Caring helps you to build better relationships and some people say it's a natural instinct, but other people insist that caring is a learned behavior. Some people say that we're programmed to be self-centered, however, other people say. that we're better off when we work together and help each other. Emotional intelligence, or EQ helps you be caring. Find out if you have high emotional intelligence here: How High is Your Emotional Intellect?
What Does Uncaring Mean?
Uncaring means you don't show concern or sympathy for other people. It can also mean that you don't take situations into account, or pay attention to details. You can be unsympathetic, indifferent, or downright unkind. People are uncaring for various reasons. Sometimes they have just not developed the ability to understand that other people's feelings and needs matter. Sometimes they are too concerned about themselves to pay attention to other things and other people. Sometimes they are not paying attention to details or things that they're being told. They might just be heartless and be aware of other people's feelings.
You can tell that someone is uncaring by their words and actions. An uncaring roommate will leave a mess all over the home and expect everyone else to pick up after them. An uncaring romantic partner won't call, make time to see you, or be attentive during love making. An uncaring family member will ignore calls to get together, and just pretty much stay away from the family. An uncaring caretaker will not meet the needs of the people or pets who they are supposed to be taking care of, and they may not even pay attention to try and find out what those needs are. If you really pay attention, you will know what your poet is trying to tell you. Find out how here: Is Your Dog Taking? Communicating with Animals
What is Caring Too Much?
Caring too much is an imbalanced type of caring. It means that you put too much emphasis on people's opinions, situations, and you worry excessively about things that aren't as important as you think they are. If you care too much about things, you will obsess over them and make yourself anxious and worried. If you care too much about a situation, you will pour too much time and effort into it and that will take time away from things that are more important. If you care too much about what people think or say about you, you will give them complete control over your life.
Caring too much unfortunately hurts the people who care too much, and that happens for multiple reasons. It means that you overthink things that you shouldn't be thinking about so much, and you overemphasize the importance of things. You take on responsibility for things that other people are supposed to be responsible for, and you get taken advantage of. You overthink things and you become hurt. Because of these things, it emotionally drains you.
It Overemphasizes Importance
How important is your coworkers opinion of your lipstick really? Is your supervisor going to accuse you of dressing inappropriately, or roll their eyes thinking your co-worker is a loudmouthed gossip? How important is it that you mow the lawn today in excruciating heat? Can it wait until tomorrow when it's supposed to be 10 degrees cooler? Some things just aren't as important as you tell yourself that they are, and giving things more importance than they deserve is a disservice to yourself. If no harm is coming to you because of something, maybe you don't need to worry about it at all. What you believe is important can become the number one thing in your life. Read about the power of belief here: What Happens When You Believe? Why it Matters
We Take on Other People’s Responsibilities
It's important to help each other, but sometimes we mind other people's business when we care too much about things that they don't care about. If you pack your best friend a healthy lunch because you're concerned about them eating junk food, is that really your responsibility? If you pay bills for your friend who refuses to work although they can, you are shouldering the burden of something that isn't yours. Sometimes we have to let people experience the consequences of the fact that they don't care enough about themselves to take care of their responsibilities.
We Are Taken Advantage Of
When you care too much about things that other people are supposed to care about, you will find yourself being used. People who want a hand out instead of help will gravitate toward you. While people might praise you for all the things that you do for them, they're just patting you on the back to make sure that you do these things for them. They don't actually appreciate you, they're using you. When you allow someone to take advantage of you, it is not only a disservice to yourself, but you enable bad behaviors that people who you love should break out of. Some people who want to be enabled are psychic vampires and you can read about them here: Are Vampires Real?
We Hurt Our Own Feelings
When you care too much about something, sometimes you unintentionally hurt your own feelings. After you've gone out on a first date with someone, if they don't call again, and you care too much about that, you can get very upset. It can make you worry that you will die alone, never find love, and worry that you're not attractive. Nobody actually said any of those things about you. A stranger just never called you back. You attach too much importance to someone who walked in and out of your life very quickly, contributed nothing, and probably doesn't have anything to contribute to begin with. Don't over emphasize the importance of unimportant things and you won't feel as hurt.
We Are Emotionally Depleted
Caring too much about unimportant things is exhausting emotionally. Not only are you overthinking things to the point of making yourself sick with worry, but when you think about these things constantly, it takes away your focus from what's really important. You don't have the energy to focus on the right things. It can leave you feeling emotionally empty, wonder if life is going to get better, and you can even get to the point that you are so emotionally numb you can't feel anything. Some things are just not important enough to attach importance to, so don't. If you need to relax and refocus your mind, you can walk a labyrinth. Read about the spiritual meaning of the labyrinth here: Walking Labyrinths in Myth and Magic
How to Care Less
Some people are just naturally good at knowing how to balance how much they care with how much they don't care. Below are ten easy tips to help you to care less about things that just. don't matter that much. From prioritizing who matters to accepting things for the way that they are, and staying positive, you can learn to care less about the things that you really shouldn't care so much about. Read on to find out how.
Prioritize Who Matters
Who really matters in your life? Does the gossipy coworker who doesn't like your lipstick, or do your clients, who you basically go to work to serve matter? Does the nosy neighbor who disapproves of your flowers matter or do your kids, who love the flowers that they planted and are proud of themselves matter? Does that first date who never called you back matter or does your best friend who would love to take you out for pizza matter? Care less about things and people who don't matter and care more about things than people who do.
Mind Your Own Business
That friend who eats unhealthy food is making their own decision and even though you think you're trying to talk some sense into them, it's basically rude to try and force them to eat food that you approve of. If you think about it that way, instead of worrying yourself sick about their health, you will learn to care less. Besides that, healthy food you fixed is what you ought to be eating for dinner anyways. Bon appetite. Speaking of food, learn the magic and lore of chocolate here: The Food of the Gods/Its Meaning and Lore
Emotionally Disengage
Consciously step away emotionally from a situation and focus on something else. When you emotionally attach to things that aren't that important, you basically bind yourself to things that aren't yours to be connected to. So, unfocus your emotions from those things, and it will help you to not care.
Become Busier
Sometimes we care too much about things when we are bored. Have you been meaning to get back into playing the piano? Instead of overthinking about things that just don't matter that much, focus your time and attention on piano. Spend your time doing good things, and unimportant things just won't matter that much anymore. Read about the spiritual connection we have with music here: The Spirit Music Connection - How Music Moves Us
Accept Things
There are some things that you just can't change, and if you accept that instead of trying to fight against them, you can take a deep breath of relief. Accept when people tell you they don't want your help, even if you feel like they need it. Accept that you can't change the gossipy co-worker, and put that beautiful lipstick on. Staying upset over things that you are powerless to change. especially when those things don't matter anyways. Is pointless.
Prioritize Yourself
When caring too much about something or what somebody else wants destroys your physical, mental, or emotional health, you need to care less about what somebody else wants and care more about yourself. There will always be someone you can help, love, or be friends with. Stop caring about the things that don't benefit your life, and start caring about yourself more. Learn about self-love here: Practicing Self Love
Allow Rejection
Everybody is rejected sometimes, and sometimes you reject people too. That person who never called you back after the date isn't the right person for you anyways. So instead of being upset that they rejected you, be happy that they didn't stick around and take time away from finding the right person. Rejection can be one of the best things that ever happened to us because it keeps the people and situations out of our life that do not serve us.
Stay Positive
A positive outlook is important when you are learning to focus on caring about what really matters. Instead of being pessimistic, focus on the things that you're grateful for and the things that are going well in your life. A positive mindset will help you to focus on what really matters and help you to step away from what doesn't. It’s also important to reject toxic positivity and you can find out how here: Accept Feelings and Discard Toxic Positive Beliefs
Ignore Opinions
If someone is not positively contributing to your life, paying your bills, or doing anything to benefit you, forget about them and their opinions. All of us have opinions about other people every day, but our opinions don't make us special. Ignore other people's opinions if their opinions can't change your life, because normally they can't.
Refuse Shame or Guilt
Shame is a misunderstanding of the fact that mistakes can translate into the best learning moments there are. Don't feel ashamed or guilty about mistakes, and stop caring if people notice that you're not perfect. Focus on the things that you can learn from those things instead, because that's all that matters.
When you care too much, you set yourself up for heartache. A lot of times we care too much and it’s because we are worrying too much. Reject shame, Ignore people's nasty opinions, and focus on what's really important instead of caring too much about the wrong things. Life is beautiful and so are you, and you deserve to be happy and focused on what's important.
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About the Author: Lady Saoirse has studied magic and lore for most of her life but started walking her own Magical Path after being spiritually reborn in the desert. Today she is a High Priestess for The Temple of the Goddess, she is a psychic advisor and spiritual counselor, she shares her gifts as a Psychic and Content Writer for Mysticsense and SpiritualBlossom, and she writes for PaganPages.Org emag and Green Egg Magazine.
